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Friday Adventure Idea: So Full!

Recipe for So Full!

This adventure makes use of a heterosexual female’s desire to feel that she is full…completely full…full to the brim and possibly even overflowing. Do all heterosexual females have this desire? I don’t know for sure. I only know that my wife Joy does, and in this scenario I thought it would be fun to cater to it.

As usual, I have written this adventure from the perspective of a male Dominant with a female submissive partner. While it would be possible to change the gender of either role, it would require other modifications to the adventure to support the gender change. Any sort of gag can be dangerous if not used properly—be sure not to leave your partner alone while wearing one. The penis gag, in particular, is not usually a beginner’s model, so I’d suggest gaining some experience with gags before employing it.

You Will Need:

Almost any sort of lingerie or other attire is appropriate for your partner to wear during this adventure, provided that it offers unobstructed access to her genital area, both front and rear. In fact, a case could be made that normal street clothes might be great fun (as long as they include a skirt) because their “normality” would contrast so markedly with the position your partner is about to find herself in…

As usual, I recommend keeping most equipment out of immediate sight until you are ready to use it or the blindfold is in place, so as to leverage the element of surprise to add to your partner’s excitement. You should put on the strap on harness and dildo prior to beginning this adventure, but put a pair of shorts over them to remain at least semi-discrete.

  1. Attach the wrist and ankle cuffs
  2. If using, place the blindfold over your partner’s eyes and ensure her vision is fully obstructed.
  3. Begin tenderly preheating your partner, taking her to a nice warm overall glow with kisses, caresses and petting. Once she feels nicely loved, instruct her to open her mouth and insert the penis gag, fastening it behind her head to hold it in place. Let her know that she is now sucking on a cock, and that you expect her to satisfy it with her mouth.
  4. Use your lips, tongue and hands to turn up the heat. Bring your partner to a state of full arousal. As you do so, make sure to remind her that she has a cock in her mouth and you expect her to keep it happy.
  5. Now you are faced with a choice. You have two penises available for use—your own and the strap on dildo. If you prefer to fill your partner’s ass yourself and let the dildo enter her vagina, guide her to lay face up on the bed. If you prefer to fill your partner’s vagina yourself and give her ass to the dildo, guide her to lay face down on the bed (and you may want to place a pillow under her hips to improve the angle a bit).
  6. If you choose face up, use the snap hooks to attach your partner’s wrists cuffs to her ankle cuffs in the wrists to ankles position, left wrist to left ankle and right wrist to right ankle. If you choose face down, use one snap hook to bind your partner’s wrists together behind her back, and the other to bind her ankles together, leaving her legs extended.
  7. Apply the lubricant to your partner’s anus (inside and out) and insert a finger. Slowly and gently slide it in and out for a moment to help your partner’s anal ring relax to allow full penetration.
  8. When ready, insert your penis into your chosen orifice and the dildo into the other. Go slowly to ensure your partner feels no discomfort, especially if she is not well-versed in anal intercourse. When fully encased in your partner’s body, point out to her that she is completely full—no hole is left empty and wanting. Remind her that she needs to entertain the penis in her mouth while the other two cocks take their pleasure in her body.
  9. Enjoy! When you are done, free your partner and remove the gag and blindfold. Hold her close and let her know what a good job she did and how well she satisfied all three cocks. I suspect you will find that they satisfied her as well.


There is an implicit subtext to this adventure around the idea of your partner being shared between multiple men—three men, to be exact. It is easily possible to make that far more explicit if desired—to do so, simply highlight that idea through the things you say. Point out to your partner that three different penises are taking their pleasure in her at the same time, and that only one of them belongs to you. Therefore, there must be two other men playing with her. Give the other two guys names if you want to. Joy has a fantasy (which she won’t admit to but which is nonetheless there) about being used by multiple partners simultaneously, and I therefore play this aspect up when we have similar adventures.

On the other hand, if being this explicit isn’t to your taste, simply reinforce the idea that your partner is stuffed full in every hole. Don’t mention that the different penises imply other men—the idea will always be there, unstated, but present on the outskirts of thought nonetheless. That will likely be enough to provide a good bit of energy all by itself.

Variations on this scenario would include changing the bondage positions (prone or spreadeagle might be good options), adding a vibrator or nipple clamps to raise the heat even more, or prefacing the experience with a nice spanking. It’s also possible to replace the penis gag with a second dildo—the kind with a suction cup on the bottom so that it can stand up on its own. In this case, you can require that your partner actively give the dildo a blow job while you take her from behind.

Enjoy yourself!


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All About Joy

A couple days ago Spanky, of the always entertaining Bright Bottom spanking blog, asked me to elaborate on the “all about Joy” nights I had mentioned in a previous post. I’m certainly not above playing requests (just not “Piano Man”, please), and so I thought that today I’d oblige and provide some more definition.

“All about Joy” nights originated because certain blog authors, not being as young as they once were, no longer always have the ability to go again and again, night after night. Nature plays a cruel trick! As women pass the age of thirty, their sex drive seems to shift into overdrive. Meanwhile, when we men pass the age of thirty (okay thirty-five), our sexual transmissions start to become a bit sticky, and it can sometimes take a little time and effort to get out of second gear. Sometimes resting your shifter for a night can help ensure a better, faster and more exciting experience the next evening.

However, just because you rest your shifter doesn’t mean you can’t have fun at the racetrack! Taking a sweet ride like Joy out for a few laps can be truly exciting even when my own transmission’s not in racing form. And this idea is how “all about Joy” was born. It’s proven to be so much fun that these days, I’d estimate we have roughly one all about Joy night a week. I have to confess, however, that sometimes when I start out with a plan to make an evening all about Joy, I discover mid-way through that my shifter didn’t need rest as much as I thought, and we transition into all about Jake.

As a side note to male readers, if you think that the concept of giving your partner pleasure while not getting the big “O” yourself is crazy, I urge you to give it a try one night. You’ll be surprised how much fun it is, how Dominant it makes you feel to play with your partner without taking pleasure yourself, and how powerfully it charges you up for the next night. Plus, your partner will be most appreciative, and that can lead to all sorts of pleasant benefits.

You may be thinking “all about Joy” means candle light, soft music, a warm bath with scented soaps, and a nice back massage. Things like this certainly could be a component of an all about Joy night, but pampering isn’t the point. Instead, on an all about Joy night, I focus on my wife (rather than myself) and provide her with intense and (mostly) pleasurable sensations and experiences. An element of pampering could be and sometimes has been involved, but as those who have explored the paths of BDSM know, intense and pleasurable can often be delivered by proceeding in other, darker directions. Recent examples include…

  • Joy is blindfolded and bound head-down and bottom-up over our spanking table, her mouth filled with the penis gag. An anal plug vibrates away in her ass as I give her a thorough paddling, alternating spanking implements to keep the experience fresh…
  • Joy’s arms stretch above her, her wrists cuffed and drawn up with a chain to the eye hook overhead. She wiggles and writhes as I use the rabbit vibrator on her pussy, inserting the shaft inside her and letting the rabbit play against her clitoris, but the chain and cuffs require her to remain on tip toe, so there’s little she can do to escape the vibrations. Her breasts, tipped with a clamp on each nipple, sway back and forth as she struggles and climaxes again and again…
  • Joy lies face down on her knees on the bed, her wrists cuffed to the insides of her ankles in classic leapfrog position. A piece of freshly peeled ginger occupies her anus, causing her to squirm as it creates its pleasant burn. I mount her from behind, penetrating deep into her vagina with our strap on, riding her as she bucks and heaves…

That’s probably enough for you to get the idea. One of the great things about this is that from my side, there’s no ticking clock during the adventure, no urgency to get to the finish. If this were a typical night, when I planned on taking my pleasure in Joy’s body, I’d feel a great desire to get to that part, the part where I’m going to explode! But on an all about Joy night, I know the explosion is not in the cards, and therefore it becomes much easier to take my time, savor the experience, and ensure Joy gets the full benefit of every activity and sensation. Frankly, on some of these nights I could probably go all night, and while Joy eventually gets worn out and pleads for me to stop, our scenes can easily last for multiple hours.

Since y’all have read this far, I’m going to divulge a little secret. Even though these nights are all about Joy, you shouldn’t imagine that I get nothing out of them. The reality is that, in many ways, all about Joy nights are the times when I can most fully experience my Dominance over her. The ability to give your partner an orgasm is a form of power, even if you are the submissive partner, even if your Dominant half is “making” you give them pleasure. On an all about Joy night, I deny even that power to Joy—I do what I wish to her, and she can do nothing to or for me. It is Dominance in a higher form, I think.

So, the reality is that “all about Joy” could be replaced with “all about Joy, except that Jake gets to feel really Dominant”. But that doesn’t have nearly as good a ring, does it?

Enjoy yourself,


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A Mouthful of Penis

I regard gags as primarily decorative. By this I mean that they serve little functional purpose during a scene—after all, they don’t really prevent the wearer from making noise, and most can be spit out if the wearer chooses to do so. From a functional perspective, about the most they can do is to keep the wearer from speaking clearly, and get in the way of oral sex.

None of the above, however, means that I don’t enjoy placing a gag in Joy’s mouth when the situation warrants it. In fact, I like gags quite a lot.
Why? It’s because they do such a good job of creating a strict feeling in a scene! In other words, while they may only be a decorative item, they provide uncommonly strong decoration!

Last year I read a blog post that talked about this, and I wish I could remember who wrote it. My memory tells me that it was a female, Dominant author, but I can’t remember her identity. Anyway, she wrote that, for her, the most submissive moment in a scene, the moment she felt the submissive most clearly surrenders power to their Dominant half, comes as the gag is presented to them. “You can see their mental struggle and watch them as they make up their mind to open their mouth and take it,” she wrote.

I think there is a lot of truth to this, and that the decision to allow one’s mouth to be silenced creates a powerful sense of giving up control. And while they are many types of gags available, when my desire is to maximize the feeling of surrender within Joy, I turn to the penis gag.

A penis gag is basically the head of a realistic dildo sized to fit appropriately in the wearer’s mouth and attached to a strap that encircles the wearer’s head and holds the gag in place. If you’re having trouble visualizing, check the picture. The penis fills the wearer’s mouth and the strap prevents it from falling out or being easily removed.

The beauty of the penis gag is that it creates within Joy the feeling that her mouth is being continually filled by a male member. She can feel the shaft between her open lips and run her tongue over its head, and regardless of how she turns her head or twists away, she cannot deny the use of her mouth to it. By taking in the gag she has given up her freedom to deny it access, and can only accommodate the penis within her mouth, encircling it with her lips, sucking on it.

A good penis gag fills exactly the same functional role as a ball gag, limited thought that role may be. Symbolically, however, the penis gag is far stronger than any ball gag. While she wears it, I am free to give and take pleasure in Joy’s body, to kiss and nibble her, to tease her, and all the while she can feel the penis, implacable in her mouth. I can spread her legs and fill her other holes as the cock lays across her tongue. And I can bring her to climax over and over again as she helplessly gives it a constant, ongoing blow job.

As you can probably tell, there’s something magic in this idea for both Joy and I. Oral sex has been a bit of a challenge for Joy over the years, and it’s required a long period of practice and slow progress for her to reach a comfort level with finishing the act. The idea of her giving up control, of being unable to say “No, stop!” to a blowjob, therefore carries high significance. And the penis gag is one way to capitalize on that idea.

Obviously a penis gag doesn’t lend itself to an adventure where I want to sample Joy’s oral talents with my own member. For that, either no gag or some form of open mouth gag would be best. But when a gag seems like the final, decorative touch required to make an evening just that extra bit stricter, the penis gag is the one I reach for most often.

Enjoy yourself,


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Bondage Product Review: Silicone Cock Gag

Just posted a review of the best penis gag Joy and I have found so far. Let’s be honest–the selection of penis gags available online is not that wide. This one, though not perfect, is an improvement over previous models we’ve tried for a couple different reasons. If you’re interested in purchasing a penis gag, take a look at our thoughts.

Enjoy yourself!


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