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All About Joy

A couple days ago Spanky, of the always entertaining Bright Bottom spanking blog, asked me to elaborate on the “all about Joy” nights I had mentioned in a previous post. I’m certainly not above playing requests (just not “Piano Man”, please), and so I thought that today I’d oblige and provide some more definition.

“All about Joy” nights originated because certain blog authors, not being as young as they once were, no longer always have the ability to go again and again, night after night. Nature plays a cruel trick! As women pass the age of thirty, their sex drive seems to shift into overdrive. Meanwhile, when we men pass the age of thirty (okay thirty-five), our sexual transmissions start to become a bit sticky, and it can sometimes take a little time and effort to get out of second gear. Sometimes resting your shifter for a night can help ensure a better, faster and more exciting experience the next evening.

However, just because you rest your shifter doesn’t mean you can’t have fun at the racetrack! Taking a sweet ride like Joy out for a few laps can be truly exciting even when my own transmission’s not in racing form. And this idea is how “all about Joy” was born. It’s proven to be so much fun that these days, I’d estimate we have roughly one all about Joy night a week. I have to confess, however, that sometimes when I start out with a plan to make an evening all about Joy, I discover mid-way through that my shifter didn’t need rest as much as I thought, and we transition into all about Jake.

As a side note to male readers, if you think that the concept of giving your partner pleasure while not getting the big “O” yourself is crazy, I urge you to give it a try one night. You’ll be surprised how much fun it is, how Dominant it makes you feel to play with your partner without taking pleasure yourself, and how powerfully it charges you up for the next night. Plus, your partner will be most appreciative, and that can lead to all sorts of pleasant benefits.

You may be thinking “all about Joy” means candle light, soft music, a warm bath with scented soaps, and a nice back massage. Things like this certainly could be a component of an all about Joy night, but pampering isn’t the point. Instead, on an all about Joy night, I focus on my wife (rather than myself) and provide her with intense and (mostly) pleasurable sensations and experiences. An element of pampering could be and sometimes has been involved, but as those who have explored the paths of BDSM know, intense and pleasurable can often be delivered by proceeding in other, darker directions. Recent examples include…

  • Joy is blindfolded and bound head-down and bottom-up over our spanking table, her mouth filled with the penis gag. An anal plug vibrates away in her ass as I give her a thorough paddling, alternating spanking implements to keep the experience fresh…
  • Joy’s arms stretch above her, her wrists cuffed and drawn up with a chain to the eye hook overhead. She wiggles and writhes as I use the rabbit vibrator on her pussy, inserting the shaft inside her and letting the rabbit play against her clitoris, but the chain and cuffs require her to remain on tip toe, so there’s little she can do to escape the vibrations. Her breasts, tipped with a clamp on each nipple, sway back and forth as she struggles and climaxes again and again…
  • Joy lies face down on her knees on the bed, her wrists cuffed to the insides of her ankles in classic leapfrog position. A piece of freshly peeled ginger occupies her anus, causing her to squirm as it creates its pleasant burn. I mount her from behind, penetrating deep into her vagina with our strap on, riding her as she bucks and heaves…

That’s probably enough for you to get the idea. One of the great things about this is that from my side, there’s no ticking clock during the adventure, no urgency to get to the finish. If this were a typical night, when I planned on taking my pleasure in Joy’s body, I’d feel a great desire to get to that part, the part where I’m going to explode! But on an all about Joy night, I know the explosion is not in the cards, and therefore it becomes much easier to take my time, savor the experience, and ensure Joy gets the full benefit of every activity and sensation. Frankly, on some of these nights I could probably go all night, and while Joy eventually gets worn out and pleads for me to stop, our scenes can easily last for multiple hours.

Since y’all have read this far, I’m going to divulge a little secret. Even though these nights are all about Joy, you shouldn’t imagine that I get nothing out of them. The reality is that, in many ways, all about Joy nights are the times when I can most fully experience my Dominance over her. The ability to give your partner an orgasm is a form of power, even if you are the submissive partner, even if your Dominant half is “making” you give them pleasure. On an all about Joy night, I deny even that power to Joy—I do what I wish to her, and she can do nothing to or for me. It is Dominance in a higher form, I think.

So, the reality is that “all about Joy” could be replaced with “all about Joy, except that Jake gets to feel really Dominant”. But that doesn’t have nearly as good a ring, does it?

Enjoy yourself,


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Brief Look at the Leapfrog Position

The variety of bondage positions available with one human body, a couple pairs of cuffs and a snap hook or two amazes me. If you want to add in a chain connector or a length of rope, even more vistas of restraint open up. I’ve mentioned many in my writing, but to date, I think I’ve only written in detail about the hog tie. Today I thought I’d cover a different option, sometimes called the “leapfrog position”.

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To describe, the leapfrog position requires you to place your partner face down on their hands and knees, then draw their hands back between their legs and cuff each wrist to the inside of the corresponding ankle. This results in them being face down with their rear end up in the air, and their head down on the bed or whatever other surface they are laying on. Sometimes a set of stocks or a spreader bar is employed to provide convenient attachment points and to keep legs spread, as is shown in the accompanying picture.

On the positive side, this position places the bound partner in a situation of great helplessness. With their head forced down by their own body, they feel hard-pressed to move. Moreover, the head down position prevents them from being able to use their sense of sight very effectively, especially when it comes to seeing what is happening behind them. WIth their bottom in the air, the submissive partner is posed perfectly for spanking or flogging. The leapfrog position also allows the Dominant partner free access to the submissive’s genital area for all types of play, including both vaginal and anal rear-entry. When Joy and I employ this position, she tends to climax relatively quickly, and her orgasms are often powerful. I believe this is due to her sense of helplessness combined with the strong stimulation made possible by the ease of access the leapfrog position provides.

On the negative side, the position is demanding on the submissive partner, as their back is stretched and bent. The head-down aspect in particular can be taxing, and they may feel pain in their neck after being bound this way for a length of time. Joy has definitely expressed concerns about comfort when kept in this position, though usually not until after the adventure has ended (somehow she seems to be distracted by other things until then). The other negative is limited access to breasts and face. If you want to give your partner’s nipples pleasure or pain, or you’d like to spend some time kissing and cuddling as a warm up for awhile before moving on to more hard core activities, best to do so before you place your partner in the leapfrog position.

Overall, the feeling this position creates is one of brutal sexuality. It’s about the physical side of sex, and when employed correctly, leaves no doubt as to who is in control of the situation. It’s not a good match if you desire to mix tenderness with cruelty. The leapfrog position doesn’t really do tenderness, though it can handle the cruelty aspect quite well.

For Joy and I our favorite activities when she is bound like this include: