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No Time, but Here’s a Picture

This has been a tremendously busy week, and consequently posting has suffered. I’d planned to remedy that tonight, but no such luck! Therefore, I’m taking the quick and easy way out and simply sharing a picture.

I’ve mentioned before that I like vintage pictures. I have no idea who this is or where it comes from, but it was a Polaroid and it looks fairly old. Based on the hairstyle and the upholstery, I’m guessing early ’70s. The rope-work is nice and neat. The photographer apparently knew his or her knots!

Because it’s not particularly well-posed or shot, I’m guessing it’s an amateur photo and that the subject isn’t a professional model. Don’t know what she’s thinking as she gets her picture snapped. Her expression looks…resigned, perhaps? Or curious, but uncertain and a bit fearful? She appears to have been accustomed to being bound, but perhaps the photography-thing was a bit new…

Anyway, enjoy, and I’ll try to write something a bit lengthier soon!

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Friday Adventure Idea

One thing I never seem to run short of is ideas for adventures for Joy and I to share. Generally I’ve got at least two or three percolating in my mind, and when I think the time is right, we live one out together.

I thought it might be fun to add a regular weekly post about adventure ideas. Because I don’t want to ruin the surprise for Joy, I’m not going to detail the ones that are still percolating, but I’ll share things we’ve done in the past. Readers are welcome to co-opt these ideas and use them verbatim in their own relationships, amend them to fit their own circumstances as they see fit, or simply ignore them if that’s preferred. My thought was that Friday might be an appropriate day for these posts to appear, as it’s just in time for the weekend!

Don’t know if this will be popular or not, but here goes!

Recipe for Adventure: Standing “O”

IMHO, there are two types of BDSM adventures–action adventures and mood adventures. An action adventure focuses on specific actions and activities to generate excitement, while a mood adventure depends more on atmosphere, setting and establishing a scenario. In general action adventures are simpler, so I thought we’d start off with one of those. Standing “O” as written works best with a female submissive, but could be modified to fit a male sub if desired.

Joy and I have used this idea or a variant many times. It’s fun because it causes the submissive to lose control (pretty much always a good thing) and because reaching orgasm in a standing position is relatively uncommon. Results are, of course, not guaranteed, but this idea works well for us!

You Will Need:

Instructions:

  1. Place the cuffs on your submissive partner’s wrists, then connect them to the overhead connection point. Note that this connection point must be sturdy–if you follow the instructions correctly, it is likely that it will need to be able to support most of the your partner’s body weight shortly.
  2. Pre-heat your partner through appropriate foreplay. I usually start with kisses and then move downward gradually on Joy’s body, focusing on all the fun places. Do the things you know your partner likes–your objective is to get her thoroughly hot and bothered, and since her hands are bound above her, there’s not much she can do to stop you.
  3. Ensure your partner’s nipples are nicely erect and then apply the nipple clamps. Tighten them enough to stay on, but don’t over-tighten. Once they are in place, continue with pre-heating activities.
  4. When your partner has reached an appropriate degree of hotness, use one hand to apply the vibrator to her genitals. If using a rabbit vibrator, insert the tip into her vagina and let the rabbit play against her clitoris. If using a traditional vibrator, apply the vibration directly to her clitoris or wherever you know she likes it best.
  5. Using your free hand (or a short paddle or hairbrush, if preferred), spank your partner’s bottom smartly. Continue spanking with one hand as you manipulate the vibrator with the other to bring your partner to orgasm. Don’t stop once orgasm has been reached. Continue on and see how many times you can make your partner climax. Because her hands are bound, there is little that she can do except come and come and come again. Joy often reaches a state where she begs to stop because she doesn’t think she can handle any more.

Commentary:

I love the sight of Joy writhing and twisting against her bonds overhead as the vibrator does its work. It makes her so sensitive that she automatically struggles to get away from it, but because she is bound she can’t. During orgasm her knees will sometimes give way or she’ll fall off-balance–hence the comment about the connection point needing to be sturdy. The spanking acts as an enhancer and serves to keep her focused, and the nipple clamps play a similar role. Watching her breasts bounce and the chain of the nipple clamps swing back and forth as she twists and squirms is positively mesmerizing.

Variations on this activity would include:

  • adding an anal plug of some sort
  • foregoing the spanking
  • adding a gag or blindfold to increase the bound partner’s sense of helplessness

As always, remember that this is a consensual activity, and be sensitive to your partner’s needs. Employ and honor a safe word!

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Bondage Positions for Genital Spanking

I believe that there are really only three simple, effective bondage position options for genital spanking. If you decide tonight’s the night to restrain your partner, spread their legs and give them a paddling on their most sensitive areas, here’s a quick look at the three options:

Spreadeagle

  • Partner feels helpless (and frankly, is helpless) to prevent the spanking
  • A relatively severe spreadeagle like the one in the picture even prevents attempts at movement to throw off the spanker’s aim
  • Genital area is nicely exposed, though as always, narrow spanking implements (a riding crop, for instance) will work best
  • Comfortable position for the bound partner (except for the spanking part, of course)
  • Requires connection points for all four limbs
Wrists to Ankles

  • Partner cannot use their arms to prevent the spanking
  • Bound partner has more ability to move and/or close their legs to interfere with the spanking, but this can actually be a positive if the spanker wishes to require active voluntary submission to receive each blow–
    “Joy, open your legs…now ask me to please spank your pussy.”
  • Narrow spanking instruments definitely preferred
  • Comfortable position for the bound partner (again, except for the fact that they are being spanked)
  • No external connection points required
    Ball Tie (aka “diaper position” in the spanking community)

    • In a tight ball tie, the bound partner is far more helpless than you (or they) might expect
    • Legs provide leverage to control and position the bound partner’s body as the spanker desires to receive the spanking
    • Genitals are slightly less exposed than in the first two positions, as the thighs provide some slight coverage
    • No external connection points and only a single pair of cuffs required!
    • Because the genital area tends to protrude somewhat in the ball tie, this position is able to accommodate somewhat wider spanking implements if desired
    • Reasonably comfortable position for bound partner provided that the duration isn’t too long

    Of course, it’s possible to mix and match bits and pieces of other positions to good effect as well (for instance, consider an overarm tie combined with some means of tying the legs apart), and if you decide you need to venture beyond “simple”, I’m quite sure someone, somewhere has figured out a way to suspend their partner upside down with legs spread to offer a tempting target. I like simple, though, and so tend to stick with one of these three options when Joy’s pussy needs a bit of disciplinary action.

    Enjoy yourself!

    Jake

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    Bondage Position: Hog Tie

    A few months ago, I wrote a series of posts that described the various bondage positions that Joy and I employ during our nocturnal adventures together. Shockingly, I appear to have entirely skipped over the hog tie! Obviously I must remedy this defect immediately…

    The hog tie gets its name from the way that swine were historically secured to prevent them from moving. The animal’s four trotters were gathered and bound together in a bundle. A similar approach is used in rodeos for the calf-roping event, when the rider ropes the calf, dismounts, flips the calf over and binds its hooves together (in this case it’s only three hooves, but the principle is the same). When applied to a human this same general approach applies, except that the four limbs are bound together behind the back.

    To place your partner in a hog tie, simply bind their wrists together behind their back and then bend their legs back and secure each ankle to their wrists. You can use as little as a single strand of cord or a silk necktie if that’s all you’ve got, or you can be more elaborate if you like rope and knots. I, of course, am not a rope guy, so my preferred method usually involves a cuff on each wrist and ankle, and either some snap hooks or our leather hog tie, which is a purpose-built restraint created specifically to enable the hog tie position.

    The severity of the hog tie depends on how much slack you give your partner’s limbs. Little slack implies more severity and less comfort, and more slack implies less severity, greater comfort, and less control. Generally I’ve found that it’s best to leave enough slack to enable your partner to lie flat on their back without being forced to lay on top of their hands. However, there may be special occasions in which you desire more or less slack.

    The great advantage of the hog tie is the degree of control it provides you. If your partner is confined in this manner, they truly can do little to free themselves, as they can’t see behind them to work on loosing the cuffs or knots. They can’t really go anywhere either, as they have little use of either their legs or hands. About the only thing they can do is wiggle, and it can be great fun to give them something to wiggle about!

    Opportunities to provide stimulation to induce wiggling abound, as this position leaves your partner’s breasts, nipples and genitals exposed and (mostly) defenseless. The breasts, in particular, are extremely available, and therefore anything from breast-spanking to nipple clamps to kisses and caresses are very much in play. Manual, oral and mechanical stimulation of the genitals are also extremely convenient, and because the bound party’s mouth is completely unobstructed, it’s perfectly possible to avail yourself of its pleasures while your partner is bound in this way.

    A severe hog tie can become fairly uncomfortable quickly, especially if the bound party is positioned on their back, lying on top of their own arms. Less severe hog ties, however, can be reasonably comfortable for longer periods of time, and therefore are preferred in most cases. As with any bondage position that induces helplessness, one should never leave one’s partner alone when they are bound in this position.

    Naturally, the hog tie has drawbacks as well, and unfortunately I find them serious. The primary issue has to do with access. With the limbs bound back together, the legs and arms get in the way of any activity involving the bound party’s behind, including spanking as well as anal and rear-entry vaginal intercourse. Severe hogties get in the way of front-entry vaginal intercourse as well, but moderate ties with sufficient slack can make it more possible. In addition, it’s only really comfortable for the bound party if they lay on their side or belly. Any positions that require them to remain face up are problematic.

    Because of the access issue, I usually employ moderate severity and limit our use of the hog tie to “all about Joy” nights, where I do my very best to give a bound and helpless Joy orgasm after orgasm, even after she thinks she can’t possibly stand anymore. The hog tie position works very well for this because she truly can’t prevent me from touching her when and how I desire. Sometimes we stop after the last ounce of excitement has been wrung from her and just go to sleep, but often I’ll call a halt a little sooner and leave her bound as I take my pleasure in her mouth or vagina.

    Enjoy yourself,

    Jake

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    Useful, But Obsure

    While I am a guy and shopping usually isn’t my forte, one thing that I do enjoy shopping for is bondage equipment. Every so often I’ll go visit the sites for the Stockroom or Extreme Restraints just to see what’s new and different, and to check if anything in particular catches my eye that we simply must add to our collection. Just my little contribution to the economy, I suppose.

    Early last year during a virtual shopping trip I came across an item that has become a staple for Joy and I, and it’s uncommon enough that I thought it might be interesting to write about. The idea for the product is simple, but few manufacturers seem to make them, and I don’t understand why. Perhaps no one knows about them? Well, all the more reason for me to write a post…

    The product I’m talking about is our bondage belt. The lovely model in the picture (image courtesy of Extreme Restraints.) is wearing one around her waist. This belt is attractive and comfortable enough that Joy has worn it out in public as part of an outfit. It’s made of thick, black, padded leather (natch) and has shiny, metal d-ring connection points at each hip and behind the back, some nice shiny rivets holding the pieces of leather together, and a buckle at the front to hold it closed. Oh, and a fun and important point–the buckle is made to accept a padlock, just to be sure it won’t come unbuckled without express permission.

    Why use a bondage belt? (insert evil chuckle here) Well, we find many uses for ours:

    • The D-ring at the back makes a quick and efficient point to cuff Joy’s hands to when they need to be out of the way behind her. A quick “snick, snick” and Joy’s hands are restrained.
    • The D-ring at each hip offers an interesting pair of locations for connection points, allowing me to cuff Joy’s hands at her sides. This is a particular favorite position of mine, as it positions her hands where they are visible and she can almost interpose them, but not quite. It’s kind of a tease, I suppose, akin to holding something just out of reach, so it tantalizes but cannot be attained.
    • The belt is thick enough to act almost as a waist cincher, providing a nice, tight, closed-in feeling when it is worn. Joy enjoys feeling it fit snugly around her waist.
    • The locking buckle provides an extra edge of excitement. There’s just something about the sound of a padlock closing that sends a shiver of anticipation up Joy’s back.

    Of course, you can use it as a tie-off point for various rope bondage positions as well. As I’ve mentioned before, I’m not a rope guy, but I could certainly see the connection points proving useful if I was.

    Despite all these practical advantages, however, I have to say that the number one benefit this belt provides is the way it looks. Seeing Joy wearing the belt and nothing else with her hands cuffed to her sides is a sight to behold. Or perhaps she could wear a pair of stockings…the kind that stay up on their own with the built in garters. Now that’s a good idea!

    Anyway, the bottom line is that we both like our bondage belt, and I’m not sure why they don’t appear to see more widespread use. Seems to me most folks could use one hanging in their playroom wardrobe beside the corsets. You know, the wardrobe where you keep the high heeled leather boots and the red FMPs…

    Hmmm…stockings with built in gartners…I don’t think Joy owns any of these, and they could really come in handy! Maybe I better go shopping to see if I can find her a pair…

    Enjoy yourself,

    Jake

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