I regard gags as primarily decorative. By this I mean that they serve little functional purpose during a scene—after all, they don’t really prevent the wearer from making noise, and most can be spit out if the wearer chooses to do so. From a functional perspective, about the most they can do is to keep the wearer from speaking clearly, and get in the way of oral sex.
None of the above, however, means that I don’t enjoy placing a gag in Joy’s mouth when the situation warrants it. In fact, I like gags quite a lot.
Why? It’s because they do such a good job of creating a strict feeling in a scene! In other words, while they may only be a decorative item, they provide uncommonly strong decoration!
Last year I read a blog post that talked about this, and I wish I could remember who wrote it. My memory tells me that it was a female, Dominant author, but I can’t remember her identity. Anyway, she wrote that, for her, the most submissive moment in a scene, the moment she felt the submissive most clearly surrenders power to their Dominant half, comes as the gag is presented to them. “You can see their mental struggle and watch them as they make up their mind to open their mouth and take it,” she wrote.
I think there is a lot of truth to this, and that the decision to allow one’s mouth to be silenced creates a powerful sense of giving up control. And while they are many types of gags available, when my desire is to maximize the feeling of surrender within Joy, I turn to the penis gag.
A penis gag is basically the head of a realistic dildo sized to fit appropriately in the wearer’s mouth and attached to a strap that encircles the wearer’s head and holds the gag in place. If you’re having trouble visualizing, check the picture. The penis fills the wearer’s mouth and the strap prevents it from falling out or being easily removed.
The beauty of the penis gag is that it creates within Joy the feeling that her mouth is being continually filled by a male member. She can feel the shaft between her open lips and run her tongue over its head, and regardless of how she turns her head or twists away, she cannot deny the use of her mouth to it. By taking in the gag she has given up her freedom to deny it access, and can only accommodate the penis within her mouth, encircling it with her lips, sucking on it.
A good penis gag fills exactly the same functional role as a ball gag, limited thought that role may be. Symbolically, however, the penis gag is far stronger than any ball gag. While she wears it, I am free to give and take pleasure in Joy’s body, to kiss and nibble her, to tease her, and all the while she can feel the penis, implacable in her mouth. I can spread her legs and fill her other holes as the cock lays across her tongue. And I can bring her to climax over and over again as she helplessly gives it a constant, ongoing blow job.
As you can probably tell, there’s something magic in this idea for both Joy and I. Oral sex has been a bit of a challenge for Joy over the years, and it’s required a long period of practice and slow progress for her to reach a comfort level with finishing the act. The idea of her giving up control, of being unable to say “No, stop!” to a blowjob, therefore carries high significance. And the penis gag is one way to capitalize on that idea.
Obviously a penis gag doesn’t lend itself to an adventure where I want to sample Joy’s oral talents with my own member. For that, either no gag or some form of open mouth gag would be best. But when a gag seems like the final, decorative touch required to make an evening just that extra bit stricter, the penis gag is the one I reach for most often.