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Tips for Figging

Figging is a topic which has graced these pages several times lately. While we here at LCSB have enjoyed it many times, to others it may be unfamiliar–it is, after all, a bit of an esoteric practice. I thought it might be worthwhile to post some tips for those who might be interested in trying it for the first time.

Do’s:

  • Purchase a ginger root of the right size and shape that you can carve it into a do-it-yourself, vegetable version of an anal plug. Many pieces found in the local grocery are too small or too segmented to be shaped in this way. Sort through the selection until you find something that will work, and if nothing appears suitable, visit another grocery.
  • Anal plugs are shaped with a wider base to prevent them from being completely inserted into the anus and enable you to get them out again. Make sure you carve your ginger root to have a similar base! As a side note, I understand (though it has not happened to us) that if the base should break off and the ginger disappear inside and be un-retrievable, it will be naturally eliminated by the body in the next day or so.
  • Make sure the ginger is fresh. Older pieces have dried out and have less natural oils in them, leading to a less eventful experience. Unpeeled ginger will usually keep for a week or two in your cupboard with little deterioration, but after that it will start to get dry.
  • Peel the ginger root and shape it immediately prior to use. Peeling too far in advance will allow the ginger to dry out, reducing both its natural lubrication and the intense sensation it provides. I often do some preliminary shaping of the root in advance, then set it in a bowl with the vegetable peeler and place them under a towel on the nightstand so that they are not visible. When it’s time to begin, I bring Joy into the room, cuff her hands behind her back, and take her over my knee for some spanking. After her bottom is nicely reddened, I bring out the bowl and ginger and, using her back as a table, finish peeling and shaping it right there while she remains over my knee. I then insert the ginger (about as freshly-peeled as you can get!) and proceed to another round of spanking. The indignity of being used as a table plus the anticipation of knowing what she is about to experience provides a nice thrill to Joy.
  • Use your fingers to “warm up” your partner’s anus before inserting the ginger. Insert your finger first (moisten your finger in your mouth or your partner’s vagina first to enable easier penetration), then after a few seconds, remove it and insert your thumb. After a few more seconds, remove your thumb and insert the root.
  • Use some sort of harness, if possible, to keep the ginger root in place. Joy and I have a dildo-keeper specifically designed to hold an anal dildo where it belongs, and this works well for us. In a pinch, a pair of thong panties might provide some help in keeping the root inserted. Carving the root into a plug shape helps somewhat, but I’ve found that it’s not possible for me to shape it so that it will remain in place on its own when Joy is under stress (or under me).
  • Consider combining bondage with figging. It only serves to intensify the experience when your partner is bound and helpless to remove the ginger root.
  • Consider combining intercourse with figging. Few things make Joy feel more submissive than having her vagina used while the ginger remains in her ass.


Don’ts:

  • Do not use unpeeled ginger. Not only is it potentially dirty, but the skin of the root will prevent the natural oils from making skin contact with your partner, eliminating the sensation of heat and spiciness you are looking for.
  • When shaping, don’t leave rough patches, unpeeled surface or sharp protuberances on the portion of the ginger that will be inserted into your partner.
  • Unlike with other anal toys, do not use lubrication when figging. Freshly peeled ginger should have enough natural oil to serve as its own lubricant. More than that, lubricants will interfere with the sensation that ginger provides.
  • Do not rinse the ginger after peeling. This will wash away some of the natural oils that make figging fun.
  • Do not make the “neck” of your ginger plug too thin or it will be prone to break. While breaking may not be a disaster, it will bring your figging adventure to a halt.
  • Do not try figging without a safe word in place. The experience is intense, and your partner may become intimidated. The sensation dies away quickly after the ginger is removed, so pulling the plug out will give your partner relief.

Miscellaneous:

  • The “spiciness” of ginger seems to vary from one root to another in much the same way (and probably for the same reason) that the hotness of jalapenos seems to vary from one pepper to another.
  • If you wish to increase the intensity of your partner’s figging experience, you can try:
    • Buying the freshest ginger you can find.
    • Making the “neck” of the plug larger—more surface area equals more intensity.
    • Giving your partner a sound spanking. The natural reaction to being spanked is to tighten one’s muscles, which will clench upon the ginger, thereby increasing the sensation. Joy tells me that the result is that she is forced to relax, which helps her to more easily submit.
    • Though we have not (yet) attempted this, reportedly if you age an unpeeled ginger root in a plastic bag in the refrigerator for a few days until moisture forms in the bag and a bit of mold begins to form on the ginger, it greatly increases the potency of the oils. The aged ginger may be peeled (thereby removing the mold as well) and used as described above, but will be considerably spicier than normal. Joy will be trying this shortly and I’m certain she’ll have some comments she wants to share with me afterwards. 🙂
  • Ginger reputedly also works when applied to the clitoris. However, when we have tried this, Joy’s natural lubrication quickly gets in the way and dilutes the effect.

Hopefully that will help get those who are curious started! If you are new to this topic and want more information on what figging is, here’s a link to previous posts on the topic.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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A Conversation at the Grocery

Yesterday morning I went out to the grocery store to get somethings for dinner. Nothing major or elaborate–I just needed some fresh vegetables and to restock a few items we were running low on. My plan for the night was to cook a stir-fry, so one of the ingredients on my list was fresh ginger root for the sauce.

Now, for those who have been following along, we use ginger root for more than stir-fry at our house. It plays the chief role in “figging“, which is one of Joy’s favorite D/s activities. Even though I had no special plans around figging for the weekend, whenever I shop for ginger I always take this potential use for the root into account. Therefore, rather than being one of those people who breaks off a little piece from a larger “hand” of ginger, I’m the opposite–I look for big roots, ones that are thick and sturdy so that they will fill Joy’s bottom nicely and won’t accidentally break off during use. The store I visited had only a marginal selection, but finally I found a hunk I thought might do and put it into my basket and continued on with my list.

When I arrived at the checkout line, the cashier ringing up my groceries was young…I’m going to guess maybe 22 or 23. She had blonde hair and a fresh, innocent face, and she was both polite and friendly as she greeted me while I put my purchases on the conveyor belt to be rung up. I futzed with my credit card for payment while she did her job, and she made conversations–nice weather, etc. But then she got to the piece of ginger.

“My goodness,” she remarked as she put it on the scale. “This is a big piece of ginger! Most people buy little pieces.”

I was still distracted with the payment keyboard and so didn’t think much about my answer. “Actually, I was looking for a bigger one.”

“Really?” she replied. She looked me straight in the eye, a smile on her face. “What do you do with it?”

I want you to know that I was very tempted to give her a straight answer. I saw my choices laid out in front of me, option A and option B. I studied her face, looking for any hint of secret knowledge that might lead me to believe she knew what use I might have for ginger. She didn’t look away–her gaze was forthright, friendly and direct. And so I chose option B.

“Asian cooking,” I answered. “I’m making stir-fried chicken tonight.”

It was an honest answer–that’s where part of the ginger root went. And another part went towards making Joy gasp and whimper and thrash this afternoon as my hand came down on her bottom and her natural reaction clenched her muscles around the ginger, intensifying its effect.

I’m sure I made the right choice–there would be no reason to tell the checkout girl the truth. But I have to confess that part of me still wonders–did she know what she was asking about? All sorts of people enjoy the pleasures of BDSM. She was awfully young, but could she have been one of them?

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Heck with MaryAnn, I Like Ginger!

Guest Post by Joy…except for the title, which is pure Jake…

Jake has asked me why I like ginger so much. I try to tell him, but it is not an easy or short answer, nor is it one that I am entirely sure of. The bottom line is that I do.

I stumbled across the practice of figging quite by accident. I was looking for spanking videos in a spare minute, and all of them were looking quite the same. I don’t know how the figging video popped up; I must have typed in “anal” too. I watched with interest, but I wasn’t entirely convinced that it was anything other some decent acting on the part of the female participant. Even so, I was interested enough to do some further searching, and the information I found was intriguing. Late one night I finally found the nerve to whisper the words in Jake’s ear.

Ginger made a prompt appearance in our playroom, and has since become a regular in Jake’s arsenal. It is a welcome weapon.

When inserted into my anus, freshly peeled ginger is unlike any other aphrodisiac I have ever experienced. And I do mean aphrodisiac. The burning and intense tingling begins almost immediately – literally within seconds. And then it spreads. I am instantly wet and just aching to be fucked. There is no playing coy or hard to get; I need it and I need it now. Jake can simply have his way with me.

Ginger weakens me physically. A ginger plug in my ass makes me feel more sensitive, but also more receptive, soft and pliant, especially for spanking. Since I cannot tense my rear end without the sensations from the ginger becoming almost too extreme, my bottom is forced to relax immediately after every slap or blow, thus making the spanking more deeply felt. Subspace is easier to reach (though I am still new to subspace and we are still experimenting with it).

There is really no need for an overly large piece of ginger if you are just starting out. And there’s no need to use lubrication–ginger has enough natural lubrication when peeled that it’s not necessary, and besides, the lubricant would interfere with the sensation ginger creates. If you are anxious about using ginger for the first time, you only need a bit to press against your anal ring. That will be enough to let you know whether or not this is something for you. My bet is that it will be.

Soon you will learn that the wider the piece, the more the anal ring is stretched, and when more skin surface is exposed, the sensation intensifies. A larger piece can be contoured to stay in place without being held there. I really, really like it when Jake surprises me with a nice thick, thoughtfully carved piece of ginger and presses it home.

No need to worry about lasting affects; once the ginger is pulled out (or falls out), the tingling ends. The downside to that is that if the ginger falls out during your escapades, you will need (want) to reinsert it

Jake makes threats (or perhaps promises) to press a piece home one night, and make me sleep with it inserted. In response, I have informed him that neither of us will be getting any sleep at all that night.

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Monthly Cycle

A question that’s come up multiple times in reader questions is how we deal with Joy’s monthly cycle within the framework of our D/s relationship. Never having been a woman myself, I have little perspective on the physical, emotional and hormonal changes that take place and how they make Joy or any other woman feel internally. However, I can speak to what I do, as the Dominant partner, to work with and around Joy’s menstruation.

Generally I have identified four different “seasons” within Joy’s cycle. Before diving in to talk about them, I need to point out that I’m generalizing rampantly throughout this description. Things can change markedly from month to month, and sometimes a particular season is shortened or lengthened or skipped all together. However, I find the idea of breaking her cycle into four parts useful as I can tailor our various adventures to fit the particular season she is in, and usually when I have an especially “interesting” idea for us to try, I’ll wait until the appropriate season to enact it. Of course, the fact that things can vary so much from one month to the next means I don’t always get things correct…

The first phase comes immediately after Joy’s period ends and generally lasts for about a week. For the sake of the metaphor, let’s call this phase “spring”. During the spring season, Joy’s desire and sexuality are blossoming, but have not yet reached full flower, her desire to submit is strong, she is generally happy and optimistic. In spring she is willing to try new things, appreciates being Dominated, is aroused by a measure of pain, and is willing to discuss deep subjects and hidden desires if I bring them up at an appropriate time.

Spring is therefore a good time to open up a new area of exploration, introduce a new toy, or start a multi-part series of adventures that will reach their climax in the next season. Though her desire is strong, it’s not yet at its peak, and because of this spring isn’t the optimum time to try to move or overcome limits. The best adventures for this season tend to include a fair portion of Domination but feature both cruel and caring aspects.

Spring is followed by summer, with summer again lasting about a week…sometimes as much as ten days. During her summer season, Joy’s sexuality reaches its peak, and she can easily become consumed with lust and desire. She longs to be thoroughly Dominated, and she craves to feel taken, to feel used, to feel plundered. She remains willing to try new things, especially if they further her feeling of submission, and pain and pleasure are firmly linked together in her mind. Summer is the season in which confessions of hidden desires are most easily wrung from her. In fact, sometimes on particularly warm summer nights when the lights are out and she can hide behind her pillow, Joy might volunteer a fantasy that she longs to try. That, for instance, is where our experiment with “figging” came from.

Summer is the season of riding crops and nipple clamps, the season in which a series of adventures should be timed to reach its climax. Summer is the best season to attempt to overcome limits, using Joy’s heat as a lever. Summer is the season of blindfolds, serious bondage, the penis gag, and one orgasm after another after another. Domination is harsher, focusing on “making” Joy take part in outrageous acts and scenarios, with caring taking a back seat. Summer is hot, folks, and its adventures should be sultry, dark and sweaty.

Summer gives way to autumn, however. Autumn seems to last about ten days, though it can shrink to as little as a week and can extend to a full fifteen days at times. Autumn is a season of change and uncertainty, still full of heat and arousal but with a mixture of fear and anxiety added. During the autumn, it’s almost as though Joy fights an internal battle between her desire and her fear, between lust and anger. Submission comes harder during this season and tends to be perfunctory and driven by the knowledge that she ought to submit, rather than by a need to submit. Pain loses much of its magic and becomes simply painful, and new things intimidate more than they fascinate. During autumn Joy still becomes easily aroused and greatly desires sex. Using this lust as a lever can be very dangerous, however.

In autumn, adventures should focus on caring, and cruelty should fade to a minimum. Autumn is the season of the good girl spanking, which focuses on closeness and appreciation rather than harshness or discipline. Guidelines should be monitored and rules should be enforced, but gently and with caring. I return to old favorites for Autumn scenes, replaying activities that Joy knows and has enjoyed in the past. Limits, risks and any pain beyond a standard spanking should be avoided. Autumn is the most difficult time, a season to play it safe.

And finally comes the winter, the time of Joy’s period itself. During the winter, Joy seems quieter, possessing neither the anxiety of autumn nor the eagerness of spring. She needs to feel that she is wanted and needed, to be told she is beautiful. Joy is embarrassed about her period, and wants to keep it hidden and private. Because of this, we cease all activity during the four to five days of this season. We tried continuing maintenance spankings through one month, simply modifying our process to leave her panties on during the spanking, but she still felt embarrassed and uncomfortable, and results were poor. Since then, even maintenance spankings go on hiatus, and we wait until spring melts the snow before we begin again. While this may sound icy cold and lonely, in reality it is not. Winter is a time out from sex, but offers a chance for us to talk and be close without relying on desire to smash us tightly together.

Those are the seasons in our house–they may not be the same in yours. However, the idea of adjusting your plans and adventures to fit your partner’s cycle can be useful and powerful. I discover quickly when I have miscalculated or forgotten and tried something delicate at an inappropriate time of the month! I have far more success when I let Joy’s seasons be my guide and take advantage of each of them appropriately…

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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All About Joy

A couple days ago Spanky, of the always entertaining Bright Bottom spanking blog, asked me to elaborate on the “all about Joy” nights I had mentioned in a previous post. I’m certainly not above playing requests (just not “Piano Man”, please), and so I thought that today I’d oblige and provide some more definition.

“All about Joy” nights originated because certain blog authors, not being as young as they once were, no longer always have the ability to go again and again, night after night. Nature plays a cruel trick! As women pass the age of thirty, their sex drive seems to shift into overdrive. Meanwhile, when we men pass the age of thirty (okay thirty-five), our sexual transmissions start to become a bit sticky, and it can sometimes take a little time and effort to get out of second gear. Sometimes resting your shifter for a night can help ensure a better, faster and more exciting experience the next evening.

However, just because you rest your shifter doesn’t mean you can’t have fun at the racetrack! Taking a sweet ride like Joy out for a few laps can be truly exciting even when my own transmission’s not in racing form. And this idea is how “all about Joy” was born. It’s proven to be so much fun that these days, I’d estimate we have roughly one all about Joy night a week. I have to confess, however, that sometimes when I start out with a plan to make an evening all about Joy, I discover mid-way through that my shifter didn’t need rest as much as I thought, and we transition into all about Jake.

As a side note to male readers, if you think that the concept of giving your partner pleasure while not getting the big “O” yourself is crazy, I urge you to give it a try one night. You’ll be surprised how much fun it is, how Dominant it makes you feel to play with your partner without taking pleasure yourself, and how powerfully it charges you up for the next night. Plus, your partner will be most appreciative, and that can lead to all sorts of pleasant benefits.

You may be thinking “all about Joy” means candle light, soft music, a warm bath with scented soaps, and a nice back massage. Things like this certainly could be a component of an all about Joy night, but pampering isn’t the point. Instead, on an all about Joy night, I focus on my wife (rather than myself) and provide her with intense and (mostly) pleasurable sensations and experiences. An element of pampering could be and sometimes has been involved, but as those who have explored the paths of BDSM know, intense and pleasurable can often be delivered by proceeding in other, darker directions. Recent examples include…

  • Joy is blindfolded and bound head-down and bottom-up over our spanking table, her mouth filled with the penis gag. An anal plug vibrates away in her ass as I give her a thorough paddling, alternating spanking implements to keep the experience fresh…
  • Joy’s arms stretch above her, her wrists cuffed and drawn up with a chain to the eye hook overhead. She wiggles and writhes as I use the rabbit vibrator on her pussy, inserting the shaft inside her and letting the rabbit play against her clitoris, but the chain and cuffs require her to remain on tip toe, so there’s little she can do to escape the vibrations. Her breasts, tipped with a clamp on each nipple, sway back and forth as she struggles and climaxes again and again…
  • Joy lies face down on her knees on the bed, her wrists cuffed to the insides of her ankles in classic leapfrog position. A piece of freshly peeled ginger occupies her anus, causing her to squirm as it creates its pleasant burn. I mount her from behind, penetrating deep into her vagina with our strap on, riding her as she bucks and heaves…

That’s probably enough for you to get the idea. One of the great things about this is that from my side, there’s no ticking clock during the adventure, no urgency to get to the finish. If this were a typical night, when I planned on taking my pleasure in Joy’s body, I’d feel a great desire to get to that part, the part where I’m going to explode! But on an all about Joy night, I know the explosion is not in the cards, and therefore it becomes much easier to take my time, savor the experience, and ensure Joy gets the full benefit of every activity and sensation. Frankly, on some of these nights I could probably go all night, and while Joy eventually gets worn out and pleads for me to stop, our scenes can easily last for multiple hours.

Since y’all have read this far, I’m going to divulge a little secret. Even though these nights are all about Joy, you shouldn’t imagine that I get nothing out of them. The reality is that, in many ways, all about Joy nights are the times when I can most fully experience my Dominance over her. The ability to give your partner an orgasm is a form of power, even if you are the submissive partner, even if your Dominant half is “making” you give them pleasure. On an all about Joy night, I deny even that power to Joy—I do what I wish to her, and she can do nothing to or for me. It is Dominance in a higher form, I think.

So, the reality is that “all about Joy” could be replaced with “all about Joy, except that Jake gets to feel really Dominant”. But that doesn’t have nearly as good a ring, does it?

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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