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Magic Boots

As you might have guessed based on the name of this blog, I love leather. This is true for leather cuffs, certainly, but it’s also true for other things. I have bought many leather articles for Joy, including panties, various bras, belts, a paddle, a flogger…all kinds of leather items see use in our playroom. Frankly, leather = sexy to me in many, many cases.

Leather boots are no exception.

I’m not sure just what the magic is that they possess. It has something to do with how they look, I think, though certainly the feel and the scent of leather can be enticing as well. But when I see a woman wearing leather boots and a skirt…well, the effect is exhilarating. Joy has several pairs, ranging from dressy to casual to downright slutty with a not-so-subtle BDSM flair. She doesn’t wear that last pair out in public, but they have made several appearances behind closed doors.

A pair of slender legs protruding from a short skirt and clad in knee-high leather just cry out to me to be spread. Those boot heels beg to be pointed up to the ceiling or used as handles to part the thighs of their owner. There are few sights more alluring than Joy, wearing her denim skirt and her brown, leather boots reclining on the bed, the hem of the skirt riding just high enough to make me wonder whether she neglected to wear her knickers today.

Boots also work well when their owner wears no other clothing at all (see picture for an example). The dramatic contrast between supple leather and bare skin somehow makes the accompanying nakedness more egregious. Joy wearing nothing but boots makes for outstanding viewing, and I frequently arrange for her to wear exactly this costume.

Speaking practically, boots also offer the capability to bind the ankles more tightly while worrying less about the comfort of the wearer. They protect their owner’s delicate skin from abrasion by rope or metal cuffs (though the boots themselves may suffer a bit) and therefore allow for a wider variety of ankle restraints. A cuffed set of booted ankles spread wide by ropes or chains makes a pretty sight indeed.

Okay, let’s be honest. I can’t explain their magic—not really. I just think women in leather boots are very sexy. If you don’t already have a pair in your BDSM wardrobe, I highly recommend you go boot-shopping. As an added bonus, you can even wear them around town or to work! It’s like a two-for-one special, and nobody will be the wiser about the real reason you bought them!

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Male Lingerie?

I had a brief comment discussion with t1klish a few weeks ago on the topic of men’s clothing. Well, “clothing” probably isn’t the right word, but the fact that there’s no better one serves to highlight the issue we discussed. t1klish was pointing out that when it comes ogling their wives or girlfriends in slinky lingerie, men have it great! There are stores and catalogues and online retailers all devoted to providing good ogling attire, and the menu of lingerie options is vast and varied. But when the tables are turned, and a woman wants her husband or boyfriend to dress in something provocative…well, what is there? There’s no “Victor’s Secret” at the local mall. As I mentioned, there doesn’t even seem to be a male counterpart for the word “lingerie” to describe men’s risqué clothing.

As t1klish pointed out, this is not fair. This might be an untouched market just waiting for someone to come out with a product line to fill it! But you know what? If I try to imagine what that product line might look like, well…I have a hard time. I’m afraid I don’t really know what sort of male “lingerie” women might find hot.

When I consider that question, I think back to a female friend who once confided in me that a pair of jeans and nothing else was the outfit she found hottest on a male wearer. There’s one data point. And I add in that Joy tells me I have a pair of black boxer-briefs that she thinks I look particularly good in. That’s another piece of input. Oh, and there are the chainsaw chaps that I wear to protect myself when cutting wood—I know she likes these, though they are a bit “Village People” to wear in the bedroom for my taste. Beyond that, I’m afraid I have little to go on.

Of course, there is also the traditional BDSM-wear for men—chains and leather, harnesses, collars with studs or spikes. My impression is that these types of costumes tend to target the homosexual crowd and therefore appeal more to men than women, but I could be wrong. I know women are reputedly “less visual” than men when it comes to eroticism. Is it possible that women don’t find much appeal to men dressed in underwear, sleepwear or other skimpy clothing? t1klish indicates otherwise, but perhaps most women don’t feel the same way?

I thought I would ask female readers. Think about bedroom clothing—the stuff you’d like to see a man wear behind closed doors when you are already in your slinky nightgown. That means that a nice suit and tie, however sexy –looking, doesn’t count. What type of male “lingerie” do female readers find most attractive on men?

I’ve listed some options below, but feel free to think outside the box I have drawn and come up with your own suggestion:

  • Boxer shorts?
  • Briefs?
  • Some sort of novelty briefs (such as the kind that has an elephant’s face on the front, and you-know-what fits inside the trunk)?
  • BDSM-wear?
  • Some sort of costume (e.g. a construction vest and hard hat)?
  • Elegant flannel pajamas?
  • Something else?

If you have some thoughts on this topic, please share them via comment. Please don’t be shy—I’m curious to hear your thoughts! And bear in mind that you’ll be doing a service for all mankind! Armed with this information, we men can do a better job of making ourselves visually-appealing in the boudoir. And we all benefit from that, don’t we?

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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The Importance of Costume in a Bondage Adventure

To start, I should probably emphasize that “costume” does not mean dressing up as Super Man or Wonder Woman, or breaking out the Halloween makeup before you get started. Oh, I suppose you could, if that’s what you’re into! But when I say “costume”, what I really mean is the clothing that you and your partner wear to enhance the mood and experience of your bondage adventure.

As I’ve said before, and will probably say again, bondage is really about acting out a fantasy. Anything you can do to make the fantasy seem more real will also make it more powerful, and make it easier to leave reality behind, even if it’s only for a little while. When you see a play or watch a movie, don’t the actors and actresses wear costumes? They dress appropriately for whatever situation they are in because it reinforces your feeling of “reality” when you watch their performance. For this same reason, wearing the right attire can help you and your partner immerse yourselves more fully within your bondage experience.

So, that’s the viewpoint my comments on costume come from. Of course, there’s a school of thought that says the best costume is no costume at all! And seeing your partner completely bare and bound does hold a great deal of magic. There are few sites more entrancing than seeing Joy nude, fastened spread eagled to the bed, her limbs straining up against her bonds. What is more vulnerable than being naked? Still, eventually you’ll want to change things up and cover up a little of that bare skin, at least for the start of the adventure. The mere idea of tying your partner up might sound wild and different at first, but if you do it the same way every time, eventually it’s going to get stale.


If you find fetish-wear attractive, there are many different merchants who will sell it to you. It’s available for both men and women, and comes in all kinds of materials, from leather to rubber. You can get clothing featuring chains, studs or zippers. I have purchased several different items along these lines for Joy, and we’ve enjoyed them very much!

However, fetish-wear brings with it a certain feeling of decadence. That fits some adventures very nicely, but there are others that call for a feeling of innocence or even prudishness. In these cases, lingerie or even simple cotton underwear works better. It all depends on the particular fantasy you have in mind.

With Joy, I’ll often suggest a general direction (“innocent” or “how about some lacey boy shorts?”), but let her choose exactly what she wants to put on. On nights where I’ve got a specific adventure planned, however, I’ll ask her to wear specific items that fit the scenario, or even leave them out for her to find and put on. This is especially fun when I’ve got something new for her—it’s fun for her to try it on, and fun for me to see her wearing it!

Note, by the way, that you don’t have to go out and buy a lot of expensive lingerie to accomplish this. Sure, you can do so if you have the budget, and it’s lots of fun! But you can also succeed with far more limited funds. Consider the atmosphere created, for instance, if your partner is clad in nothing but a badly torn T-shirt and pair of panties…

Your mileage may vary, and you may want to do things entirely different than this. But the point is that what you and your partner wear matters! Pay attention to this detail, match your costume to the mood you want to create, and I promise you you’ll notice a difference in your experience!

The moral of this story is this: Bondage adventures are about acting out fantasies. Just as the costumes actors wear in a play or movie help make the performance seem more real, the clothing you wear will help you and your partner get more fully “into” your shared fantasy. If you want that fantasy to be powerful, use this knowledge to help make it so.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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