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Friday Adventure Idea: No Way to Win

Recipe for No Way to Win:

A Dominant often demands obedience from their submissive partner. “Do it,” says the Dominant, and the submissive is expected and anxious to comply. Non-compliance is not desirable–sometimes, in fact, it is understood that failure to comply may bring punishment.

But imagine if the Dominant’s demand was difficult to the point of unreasonableness. How would that feel? And further, imagine that the Dominant expected to be obeyed anyway, and that the submissive had a strong expectation of punishment for failure. Can you put yourself in the poor submissive’s shoes and empathize with their growing panic as they begin to realize that they cannot comply, but that impossibility is not an excuse?

This is the premise behind today’s adventure. Be careful, however! The tone of this scenario must be light in heart—you almost need to employ a sense of humor when enacting it. Your submissive partner should recognize that you are playing with them, and that you fully understand that you’ve placed them in a no-win situation. If you insist on a deadly serious approach, you will likely get anger, frustration and tears as a result rather than the sexual submission you are looking for.

There are many other ways to implement this concept than the one I describe below. I chose this particular approach for Joy and I due to the large number of dildos we have in our collection and the way it dovetails with our long-standing requirement that Joy use her mouth to “clean” my penis after intercourse. If you don’t have a sufficient number of dildos available to follow along with the idea below, you can certainly come up with your own unreasonable task. Just remember that making it a bit demeaning as well as difficult will help ramp up the feeling of submission for your partner.

As usual, this adventure is written from the perspective of a male Dominant with a female submissive partner. However, roles and genders can be mixed and matched as desired without impact.

You Will Need:

  • 1 set of wrist cuffs
  • 1 collar with o-ring
  • 1 snap hook
  • 1 pair of nipple clamps (optional)
  • an assortment of dildos or vibrators, preferably realistic in appearance
  • 1 spanking implement, and it is best if it’s the one that your partner finds most intimidating (for us, this is our riding crop, which Joy swears has invisible teeth in the striking end)
  • a wristwatch with a second hand or some other way to measure time

Instructions:

You want your partner to feel vulnerable for this adventure, and the way they dress should support that feeling. One option would be to ensure they wear nothing at all—nakedness certainly can induce a feeling of vulnerability. Another option would be to break out the cupless or peek-a-boo bra and permit them to wear nothing else, and finally, a babydoll nightgown with nothing underneath would work as well. I chose to be fully clothed for this adventure to emphasize the difference between Joy’s role and my own, but you may dress as you like.

I said it above, but let me repeat. Keep the tone of this scenario light! Your partner should discover relatively quickly that you have set them an unreasonable task, and grasp soon after that you are fully aware that it is not reasonable. They should see the inevitability of their “punishment” and realize that even though they are bound to fail, you expect them to try their best anyway and then submit to the spanking that they “earn” through their failure. If you start to see frustration set in, take steps to lighten the tone with what you say or how you act to help them understand the spirit of the adventure.

  1. Lay out the selection of dildos and vibrators in the room where you stage the adventure. They can just be lying on a table or on a bed, but be sure not to stand them up on end or it may actually become possible for your partner to complete the task you are about to set them. If you want to raise the submissiveness of the adventure a tad, you could even lay them out on the floor. Joy and I have easily a dozen different vibrators and dildos, and that’s plenty. You could probably get away with as few as six if that’s all you have. Ensure that your spanking implement of choice is also somewhere handy so that you can pick it up easily when it becomes necessary.
  2. Bring your partner in and instruct her to don her cuffs and collar. Caress her, hold her and kiss her to raise her excitement level as she puts them on. Ensure that the o-ring of the collar is positioned at the back of her neck.
  3. Raise your partner’s hands up behind her neck and use the snap hook to connect both wrists to the o-ring of the collar. This will place your partner in an overarm tie, and greatly restrict her ability to use her hands and arms. In addition, it will nicely expose her breasts and underarms—take the opportunity to enjoy them thoroughly.
  4. When you are ready, tell your partner that you have something she needs to do for you. Explain to her that the dildos you have laid out need a good cleaning, and you expect her to take care of it.
  5. Your partner will likely be puzzled and not know what to do. Add a bit of pressure by telling her that you have other plans after she’s done, and she should hurry and get started.
  6. When your partner points out that she can’t clean them because her hands are bound, respond by telling her that her mouth is free, isn’t it? She knows how to clean a cock with her mouth, doesn’t she? Repeat again that she needs to get started—you want her to hurry and finish.
  7. Hopefully your partner will now begin to attempt the task you have set her, but chances are good that some level of resistance will begin to build inside her. Joy gave me “the look” when I gave her that instruction, and I took the opportunity to wink at her. Remember my suggestion about keeping the tone light?
  8. Because her hands are bound behind her head, your partner will be unable to use them to assist her in the task you have set her. She will instead have to bend over and use her lips and mouth to reposition the dildos so that she can “clean” them. This will be both difficult and rather demeaning. If she tries to get away with simply licking them, hold her waist and give her several serious smacks on the bottom with your hand. Warn her that you expect her to do a good job! And tell her again to be quick about it because you have plans for her body and you don’t like to wait! Don’t accept anything less than a full-on and fairly thorough blow job of the dildo before she can call it “clean”. Feel free to impose other requirements, such as licking the base of the shaft and the balls (if the dildo comes equipped with balls).
  9. When she succeeds in completing one dildo, tell her that it took far too long, and that she must be much quicker about the rest. Set a time limit of one minute for the next one, and use the watch to time your partner’s efforts. Tell her that if she doesn’t succeed within that time limit, you’ll be forced to punish her. But…remember to keep the mood light. Be playful rather than severe and stern when you talk about punishment.
  10. If your partner somehow succeeds with the one minute time limit, either up the ante by adding to the requirements to clean the next dildo, or reduce the allotted time. Your goal is to ensure that she fail.
  11. When your partner fails with her efforts, bend her over your knee and give her bottom a sound paddling with your hand. Then tell her she has “X” minutes to finish cleaning all the other dildos (where you pick “X” to be long enough to give her time for a good try, but not long enough to succeed). Tell her that you are out of patience, and if she fails again, you will show her what a real spanking feels like. Pick up the spanking implement you have chosen so that she can see that you intend to use it, and warn her that you will be watching to make sure she does a thorough job. Then begin timing. Feel free to tap your foot impatiently if you like.
  12. Ideally your partner will do her level best to complete her task, knowing all the while that she is doomed to fail. It’s possible, however, that she will give up. If she does, incentivize her using the nipple clamps (“These will not come off until you are through!”) or by stopping the clock and using the spanking implement to administer some interim motivation, then requiring her to start the cleaning process over.
  13. When time runs out and the task has not been finished, pretend to be sad about what you are about to do. “This is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you,” might be a good line to use. Then apply the spanking implement firmly to her behind until you feel you have spanked her long enough.
  14. When you are done, you may either instruct her to “clean” you with her mouth, or you may spread her legs and ride her until you reach your climax. Do not worry about her pleasure—this is not an adventure that focuses on her physical enjoyment. Rather, maximize her sense of submission and her feeling of being your toy to play with, and you will feed her mental enjoyment instead.
  15. Afterwards during cuddle time (and she will have earned some solid cuddling!), feel free to discuss what you did. If she wants to know why you set her an impossible task and punished her when she failed, tell her it’s because you wanted to remind her that she is a submissive, and that thinking about a task or worrying whether or not she can accomplish it is not listed in the submissive job description. Instead, her job is to submit, and you may choose to reward or punish her for her actions however you choose. Tell her she did well, even if she didn’t actually clean all the dildos, and that you are proud of her submission.

Commentary:

As mentioned above, there are many ways to set impossible tasks. Feel free to improvise. This adventure requires a fairly deft touch, and may be difficult for beginners! If you’re worried about how your partner will react to it and want to lighten things up a bit, consider replacing each instance of “punishment” with tickling instead. With your partner’s arms bound behind her neck, she won’t be able to defend her ticklish spots, and therefore will be at your mercy.

If you don’t have a collar, you could also forego the overarm tie and simply cuff your partner’s hands behind her back. This won’t be as artistic, but it should be just as effective.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Friday Adventure Recipe: Hogtied and Helpless

Recipe for Hogtied and Helpless:

The hogtie is a bondage position that emphasizes helplessness. With her hands and feet gathered together and bound behind her back, this position ensures that your submissive partner can do little more than wiggle under your touch. In today’s adventure, we will further emphasize her state of helplessness with a blindfold (and optionally a gag as well) and then capitalize on it by seriously overloading her sexual circuitry.

One of the drawbacks of the hogtie position is that it makes any form of intercourse difficult. Never fear, however, as we will work around that problem by finishing up in your partner’s mouth. As usual, please note that though I’m writing from the perspective of a male Dominant with a female submissive partner, genders and roles could be changed without too much difficulty to fit your situation.

You Will Need:

Instructions:

For this adventure, you’ll need your partner’s nipples and genitals exposed, so she should be dressed in clothing/lingerie that facilitates this. This could be anything from an open cup bra and crotch-less panties to nothing at all—the choice is yours. You may dress yourself however you see fit—since your partner will be blindfolded, your attire is not much of a factor.

Lay out your equipment so that it is ready for use. No need to worry about keeping it out of sight—it won’t impact anything if your partner guesses what you plan for them. The only possible exception to this might be the gag if you plan to use it, and that’s only because it’s always so much fun to make your partner open her lips and take the gag when she’s not expecting it.

If you do choose to use the gag, remember to be careful of your partner’s breathing, and arrange for some sort of “safe signal” to replace your normal safe word, as she won’t necessarily be able to speak intelligibly.

  1. Begin by bringing your partner to a nice, steamy simmer with kisses and caresses. Keep raising her temperature as you attach the cuffs to her wrists and ankles.
  2. Continue to kiss her and caress her as you place the blindfold over her eyes. And then give her one final kiss before you insert the gag between her pretty lips and fasten its straps in place behind her head.
  3. Gently, but firmly, place her face down on the bed (or the couch, or the floor, or wherever you want her to lie). Bring her wrists together at the small of her back and fasten them with the hogtie (or alternatively with a rope or a snap hook, depending on which you choose to use). Then grasp her feet and pull them up and back until you can connect her ankles to her wrists using the hog tie (or the rope or a snap hook) as well. At this point she should be helpless–blindfolded, gagged and bound in the hogtie position.
  4. Now, roll your partner over until she is lying about three-quarters on her back. (Avoid making her roll over too far or she will have her weight on top of her hands and ankles, which will quickly become intolerably uncomfortable for her.) This will nicely expose her breasts and vagina, and note that because her hands and feet are bound behind her, there is very little she can do to prevent you from doing whatever you’d like to these delicious parts of her body.
  5. Use your hands and mouth to raise your partner’s temperature to a full boil. When she is gasping and squirming and fully lubricated, pick up the vibrator. This is no time for subtlety and gradual build up—turn the setting to high and apply it directly where she likes it the most.
  6. Remember I mentioned we would overload your partner’s sexual circuitry? While the vibrator is working its magic on her genitals, use your mouth and free hand to play with her nipples. Kiss them, lick them, suck them and nip them. Pinch them between your fingers and roll them back and forth. In the presence of great arousal, nipples often seem to convert pain to pleasure, and this is the effect we are going for here. Watch your partner and read her reactions to make sure you don’t go too far in this direction—you want to be sure you are giving her the “good” kind of pain. If you exceed her tolerance for this, however, you’ll cross over to the “bad” kind of pain, and that will detract from the experience rather than adding to it.
  7. If all continues to go well with the nipple play and you want to go a step further, try this. Use your finger to “flick” her erect nipple. Start out gently, and watch how she responds. If her reaction seems to be more positive (as in, “Ow, that turns me on!” rather than “Ow, that hurts!”), you can increase how hard you flick it. Joy only likes this when she’s truly excited–if she’s not extremely aroused, it hurts. But when she is in the proper state of arousal, it drives her crazy.
  8. Your goal is to give your partner multiple orgasms. In fact, ideally you’ll keep her squirming and bubbling for orgasm after orgasm after orgasm. Go until you think she can’t possibly take anymore. Since she is so helpless, she won’t be able to stop you, and so will have no choice but to keep on coming. The only exception is, of course, if she uses her safe word (or safe action if you are using a gag).
  9. When you decide to stop, don’t give her time to compose herself. Instead, remove the gag (if you’re using it), then grasp her hair and position her head so that you can enter her mouth. Thrust in and out between her lips until you reach your own climax. The choice is yours whether you come in her mouth or across her face–either will work just fine.

Commentary:

If you’d like to emphasize the feeling of Dominance (and conversely, your partner’s feeling of submission) in this adventure, consider choosing to give your partner a facial rather than coming in her mouth. Once you’ve done so, leave her bound for a few minutes so that she’s unable to clean herself up and must lie there with your sperm on her face (but stay close by–it’s not safe for your partner to be alone when she is gagged and bound). When you decide it’s been long enough, take a cloth and gently wipe her face for her before you free her.

Other bondage positions besides the hogtie will work for this adventure as well, of course, and if you decide that intercourse is a must, you could certainly unbind your partner’s legs to make it more easily possible. Another gag alternative might be a ring gag, which would enable you to penetrate your partner’s mouth without having to stop to remove it.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Friday Adventure Recipe: Corner Time with Cuffs

Recipe for Corner Time with Cuffs

You know, I started out as a bondage guy. Bondage was my “gateway drug” into the larger world of BDSM. Even though my boundaries have expanded well beyond the limits of bondage, it still remains a subject of fond interest, and therefore many of the adventures Joy and I embark upon feature an element of cuffs and chains.

This week’s adventure takes the well-known idea of “corner time” and adds a bondage flair to it. Corner time is typically thought of as a disciplinary measure, and indeed this adventure can be used that way. However, it can also serve as a reinforcement of the power dynamic within the relationship (i.e. the submissive waits on the Dominant’s pleasure), and as a source of light humiliation. Adding the bondage element to the adventure tends to diminish the disciplinary feel IMHO, which is good for us. Joy likes the idea of being made to do as she is told, and a slight whiff of humiliation can be a turn on for her, but being “punished”? Not so much…

This adventure is essentially free of gender bias—-Dominant and submissive partners can each be of either gender. As usual, however, I’ve written from my own perspective, that of a male Dominant with a female submissive partner.

You Will Need:

  • 1 pair of wrist cuffs or handcuffs (and you could use rope or some other sort of tie in a pinch)
  • Spanking implement of your choice (could be your hand if you’d like)
  • An attachment point positioned so that you can secure your partner’s wrists to it in a standing position (ideally this would be an overhead connection point, but as long as it keeps your partner standing, anything will work. See the photographs for a couple “just make it work” approaches to this).
  • Sufficient rope, chain and/or snap hooks to enable you to connect the cuffs to the attachment point

Instructions:

Your partner may start off dressed in anything—it won’t matter, because one of the first things you’ll do will be to remove their clothing. You should remain fully clothed through the adventure right up until the end. This will help to increase the contrast of strength versus vulnerability as you proceed. Ensure the cuffs, connectors and optional spanking implement are out and ready for use. Ideally, this adventure would take place in the middle of your living room (rather than in the bedroom, for instance), but the need for the connection point will likely influence where you stage it.

  1. Bring your partner to the room where you plan to act out the adventure. Do not perform any pre-heating activity—you want to start from a cold oven. Instead, instruct them to remove their clothing (“Yes, all of it!”). Watch as they undress—feel free to sit down to better enjoy the view if you desire. Don’t give them time to do an elaborate strip tease, however—you want them out of their clothes, and now!
  2. When your partner is naked, beckon them to you and place the cuffs upon their wrists. You may secure them together either in front or behind their back if you choose. Then, take your partner over your knee and administer a firm spanking. You may use your bare hand or whatever other spanking implement you selected.
  3. There are many types of spankings. Some can be almost soft and tender (e.g. a “good girl spanking”), while others can be a bit more stern. Think stern for this adventure. Limit conversation, go light on the rubbing between spanks, and paddle your partner’s behind briskly and thoroughly.
  4. When you are finished spanking, assist your partner to the attachment point and use the connectors you laid out to fasten your partner’s wrist cuffs to it. Leave her standing there naked with reddened cheeks while you go about your business.
  5. What is “your business”? Well, that’s up to you. One possibility could be making preparations for the next part of the adventure (that part where you screw the bejesus out of your partner)—laying out some pillows on the floor and bringing in any additional bondage equipment or toys you may need, perhaps. However, I think it’s best to have all that already set up. Instead, I’d suggest getting yourself a drink, reading a book or magazine, or watching a little television. I prefer these activities because they are clearly about you, rather than your partner. (Do not, however, leave your partner alone out of earshot for any length of time—it is not safe to leave a bound person by themselves.)
  6. Pay no overt attention to your partner. If she attempts to engage you in conversation, hush her. Something like, “Mouth closed– I’m busy,” might be an appropriate thing to say. Don’t go get her something to drink or scratch where she itches, even if she asks. Hush her with a finger across her lips. Your goal with all this is to ensure that she clearly understands that her job is to wait, and you will get to her when you are ready and not before. The only exception to this (obviously) is if she employs her safe word or if there’s some sort of dangerous situation. If this were a disciplinary scenario, this would be the time your partner should spend reflecting on her transgressions and how to do better next time. In this case, however, you just want her to understand that she will wait for as long as you want her to, and there is little that she can do about it.
  7. I recommend going about ten minutes like this. Trust me—it will seem substantially longer to your bound partner. Don’t go much beyond ten minutes—eventually her arms will get tired if they are bound overhead. You want to wait just enough time to emphasize your point.
  8. When you are ready, release your partner. Take her into your arms for a hug and a kiss, and then push her down to her knees and “make” her give you oral sex until you are excited. From here you move into the “screw the bejesus out of your partner” part of the adventure, and you may do so using whatever techniques and positions you prefer. Personally, I recommend over the arm of the sofa, but the choice is yours. Don’t forget pre-heating may be required before actual entry!

Commentary:

Feel free to talk with your partner afterwards about the experience of having to wait naked and bound on display after having been firmly sparked. How did it make her feel? Ideally you want it to have created a mixture of humiliation and submission in her, which through an odd process seems to transform into arousal. My guess is that she will report that it was an unpleasant, but exciting, experience, one that she doesn’t want to repeat, except that…maybe she does.

Variations on this theme might include making your partner wait in other poses (bound with her legs spread wide apart might be a good option), or simply continuing on with the blow job at the end and skipping the screwing-the-bejesus part. It’s also possible to add a blindfold (though I think that diminishes the sense of humiliation) if desired.

Note that though the title of this adventure references “corner time”, there’s no need to position your partner in the corner. I positioned Joy in the center of the room when we did this, and that way I could get a good look at her from all angles. Isn’t it nice to have lovely art to admire in your home?

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Sources of Adventure Ideas

One of the things I most enjoy about bondage and BDSM is coming up with ideas for adventures. An “adventure” is the name I use for one of the lengthy sessions Joy and I share in our playroom–in the BDSM community, an equivalent term would be a “scene”. Anyway, planning an adventure is lots of fun, mainly because you get to imagine what will take place, and sometimes imagining the adventure can be nearly as much fun as actually acting it out. Note that I said “nearly”…

But where do the ideas for adventures come from? How does one decide what the next scene ought to be? And how does one keep from becoming overly repetitive, which as we all know, can lead to boredom? Yes, sex (even sex with cuffs and a collar!) can become boring if it’s always the same thing, over and over.

If I’m honest, I have to confess that I don’t always know where my ideas come from. Sometimes they just seem to appear fully crafted in my mind. But usually I can make an educated guess about possible sources and influences, and from those guesses, I’ve put together a quick list of some of the fonts of inspiration you can look to when thinking about the next adventure of your own. Consider…

  • Your Partner – What do they enjoy? What are their limits? Are you working towards a limit, and if not, should you be? Note that limits are a tricky subject, because they exist for a variety of reasons. Your partner might have a limit because they truly don’t like something and they will never like it. In that case, working towards that limit is probably foolish and negative–the best you’ll likely ever achieve is grudging toleration. If that floats your boat and your partner is willing to cooperate, then by all means, but I prefer to work in directions that lead to more fun.

    However, your partner may also have set a limit around an activity because they have inaccurate preconceptions (many women, for instance, have inaccurate preconceptions about anal sex), because they’re afraid of it, or because they believe that it is outside the norm. If any or all of these is the case, then slow, gradual exploration might be highly fruitful. Try conducting an adventure that takes you and your partner one small step in the direction of that limit, and see how it goes.

  • Previous Adventures – Sometimes the next adventure can be pretty obvious, as there’s a clear next step from an earlier adventure. For instance, if you’ve previously only bound your partner’s hands behind their back, then an obvious next step would be to try binding their hands and feet. Or if you’ve done the hands and feet thing, you could take another step by adding a gag.

    Also, sometimes it’s good to combine previous adventures to create something new. So, if you’ve previously blindfolded your partner in one adventure and bound them in another, try binding them while they are blindfolded.

    And finally, don’t forget that “variety is the spice of life”. Think about the adventures you and your partner have had lately and then see if you can do something different. This doesn’t even have to include BDSM, by the way! Sometimes having a completely vanilla encounter can be refreshing for both you and your partner. Or try something that’s not vanilla, but not BDSM-related (sex in an unusual location, for instance).

  • Books, Movies or Online Stories – What have you read about that excited you? What have you seen on the silver screen (or on the latest porn video you watched)? Is there a site that talks about something you want to try? Just about any sex-related activity that is possible to imagine has been captured in print, on film or online somewhere, and exploring these sources can provide a wealth of ideas.

    If you’re a beginner, consider the soft core movie industry as a potential source of inspiration. Soft core movies are typically filled with “adult situations” that might spark ideas. Films such as “Nine and a Half Weeks” or the “Red Shoe Diaries” series might provide a place to start, and are mainstream enough that you could even watch them with a completely newbie partner to get a read on what they might enjoy.

  • Your Imagination – I saved the best source for last. Your imagination can create all kinds of situations and scenarios for you to implement, if you let it. If you are having trouble exercising your imagination, try focusing on a sexual or BDSM-related goal you’d like to attain (and don’t tell me you don’t have one–of course you do) with your partner. Then, try to imagine how it could happen. Can you see yourself in that situation with your partner? Okay, that’s your target.

    Now, starting from wherever you are now in your relationship with your partner, how can you begin to move toward your target, even if it’s just a tiny bit? Can you think of a way? Suppose you’ve done light bondage, but think that your partner might enjoy being spanked. Could you start by placing them in positions where their rear end is exposed and vulnerable, and telling them how tempting it is, and how you’d like to spank it? And might that open up a doorway to talking about the idea of spanking, so that you can gauge their reaction? And might that eventually lead to more than just talking about it? You see how this can work…

    If you can’t think of a physical way to move forward toward your goal, then consider approaching it in fantasy instead. Sometimes sharing a fantasy (either verbally or through role-playing) can be a very powerful inducement to try it out in reality. And sometimes it turns out that your partner secretly has the same fantasy you do. So, if you can’t think of a physical step towards your goal, secure your partner and then tell them to imagine that they are in whatever situation you are visualizing. (Perhaps you’re fantasizing about having a three-some, for instance, and you can instruct them to imagine that there is another person in the room with you.) Act out your scenario with them, and watch to see how excited it makes them and whether they enjoy it.

If you’re completely strapped for new ideas, then there’s always one strategy you can fall back on. Recycle an old, successful idea you haven’t tried in awhile. Sometimes a little time is all that’s needed to revitalize an old concept. And sometimes the tried-and-true is exactly what’s needed to fill a void before your next great idea comes.

Enjoy yourself!

Jake

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Friday Adventure Idea: A Gift

Recipe for A Gift

This adventure plays upon a common fantasy, one that is shared by many submissives and many Dominants as well. Note that it does not matter whether or not you’d ever actually consider turning this notorious fantasy into reality–the adventure is all about illusion. You will be using a blindfold to keep your partner “in the dark”, and leveraging illusion to plant a seed of doubt in your partner’s mind that maybe, just maybe, you have done something that she both fears and desires, something that makes her catch her breath and squirm in her seat and get goose bumps all up her arms…

While I’ve definitely written this from the viewpoint of a male Dominant with a female submissive partner, changing the genders of each role shouldn’t be overly difficult with a few small modifications.

You Will Need:

  • 1 set of wrist cuffs
  • 1 set of ankle cuffs
  • 2 snap hooks
  • your mobile phone
  • a good blindfold
  • A change of clothes (for yourself)
  • Unfamiliar cologne
  • Additional props (see instructions for suggestions) as desired to reinforce the illusion you create

Instructions:

There’s no specific style of dress your partner should wear for this adventure. Anything from bra and panties to a baby doll nightgown to a corset and crotchless panties could work. The only suggestion I’d make is that your partner dress in something she feels she looks her best in—you want her to feel confident in her appearance when the action begins.

You, yourself, should be dressed in something that is distinctly dissimilar to the change of clothes included in the ingredients list above. For instance, if the change of clothes you select is jeans and a t-shirt, you might consider starting the adventure dressed in shorts and a button-down shirt.

Your partner will see the cuffs, snap hooks and blindfold when you put them on her, and that’s okay. But because this adventure relies upon illusion, it is extremely important to keep all other props and equipment out of sight until the blindfold is in place and your partner’s vision is obscured. Hide them out of sight in another room well away from where the adventure takes place!

  1. Before the adventure starts, arrange to receive a text or phone call on your mobile phone at a specific time about half an hour after you plan to begin your adventure. For instance, if you plan on beginning festivities at around 10pm at night, you would make arrangements to receive the text at about 10:30pm. Be sure your mobile device is set to provide an audible alert when you receive the text or call so that your partner is aware that you received it! To make arrangements for a text or call at a specific time, you may leverage an internet wake up call service, or go the old-fashioned route and enlist a friend to text or call you.
  2. As you begin the adventure, inform your partner that you have a surprise for her tonight. But to receive it, she must be a good girl, be patient, and do exactly as she is told. Tell her she gets no questions and no excuses—you expect her to cooperate fully with whatever happens and obey your instructions. If you feel it is appropriate, a brief paddling over your knee might be inserted here to remind her that you are serious and that you expect her to submit.
  3. Once she has assured you she will do as she is told, reward her with kisses, caresses and praise. Bring her to a low boil with your hands and lips as you lay her down on the bed and place the cuffs on her wrists and ankles. Use the snap hooks to connect her left wrist to left ankle and right wrist to right ankle in the wrists-to-ankles position (note that if you have connection points at the four corners of the bed you can choose to go with the more restrictive spreadeagle position if you prefer—it will tend to strengthen the illusion a bit if you do).
  4. Now place the blindfold over her eyes and be sure that it obscures her vision. Tell her that no matter what happens, she may not remove the blindfold. Be firm about it, and make sure she understands your instruction. Give her a sweet kiss as she lays back on the bed with her eyes covered. Continue to play with your partner’s body until the text (or call) comes to your mobile phone.
  5. Check the text (or answer the call and have a quick, pretend conversation…something like, “You here? Okay, gimme a second and I’ll be right there”) in your partner’s presence so that she can guess what you are doing. When you are done, tell her, “We have a little change of plans. I need you to be patient, baby. I have a friend that’s stopping by. You wait right there. I’m going to go let him in and say hi. I’ll be back in a few minutes.”
  6. Chances are good that your partner will be somewhat uncomfortable with waiting bound and blindfolded in lingerie with a friend of yours in the house! But forestall her protests by telling her, “He’s at the door right now—there’s no time. Just wait here patiently. Be quiet or he’ll hear you and wonder what’s going on! I’ll be back in a few minutes.” If necessary, remind her that you expect her to do as she is told tonight.
  7. Now, leave the room and close the door. If your partner can hear, go to the front door and open it, then close it again to create the idea you have let someone in. If there are any other sounds you can think of that might help further the illusion of someone else being in your home (voices, for instance), go ahead and make them as well. In the meantime, quietly but quickly change into the other set of clothes you have. Put on a bit of the unfamiliar cologne. Listen to make sure your partner is okay—remember that she is bound and blindfolded on the bed, and you need to be able to hear her if she requires your help in any way!
  8. In a couple minutes you are going to return to your partner. When you do, your goal is to do whatever you can to make her believe that the person who enters the bedroom is not you! That’s why you’ve changed clothes—when you embrace her, you want the clothing she feels to be different than what she is expecting. The unfamiliar cologne will give you a different scent. Anything else you can think of to help make her believe that you might not be you would be helpful—unfamiliar rings on your hands so that she feels them, shaving (if you’re unshaven)…you get the idea. The stronger the illusion of being someone else (presumably your friend who is visiting), the more powerful the adventure will be for your partner.
  9. When you are ready, go to the bedroom door where your partner waits. Knock softly, but don’t wait for her to answer–my guess is that she will keep quiet as a mouse. Open the door slowly. Hopefully she has done as you instructed and waited patiently! Do not say a word—you will say nothing from this point forward so that she cannot use your voice to identify you. Instead, walk slowly over to the bed and stand over her, looking at her.
  10. Slowly and gently begin to touch and caress your partner. Start with less intimate areas and move to more intimate areas. Think about what you would do if you really were a friend who had been gifted with the opportunity to possess the lovely creature bound on the bed before you, then do that. Build the excitement carefully and gradually, stepping up from caresses to kissing and licking. At some point, progress beyond gentleness and take control of her. Grasp her hair and make her give you oral sex. Enter her and ride her roughly. Pinch her nipples and make her gasp and squirm. And finally, if possible, end with an act that you know she likes, but is a little uncomfortable with, or ashamed to admit, or that she’s never done with anyone else. It could be anal sex, it could be receiving a facial…you know your partner best, so you will have to choose.
  11. Right after you walk in the door, chances are very good that your partner will be saying things like, “Is that you? Please, just tell me it’s you!” Keep quiet—preserve the element of doubt as long as you can. Probably that won’t be nearly as long as you’d like—Joy told me that she knew for sure it was me the first time I kissed her—but the longer the better. Ideally your partner will wonder, “Could he really be giving me to his friend? Could I go through with it? I know it’s probably him, but what if it isn’t? What if this is a stranger’s penis I have in my mouth?”
  12. Hopefully at some point your partner will release any inhibitions and give herself to you. Probably that will be because she’s become confident it’s really you inside her, but we can always hope that you’ve driven her wild with lust. Anyway, make certain you give her an outstanding climax before you finish!
  13. When you are done, you have a choice. You can continue on with the illusion you’ve tried to create and dress and exit the room, saying nothing at all, then change clothes and return to free your partner in your own persona. Or you can simply remove her blindfold and own up that it was you all along. Either approach will work just fine.

Commentary:

You’re only going to get one chance to make this work with your partner—once you’ve tried this and she’s realized it was you, you’ll never again be able to easily create doubt by pretending to be someone else. That means you need to make the most of it. Go all out to convince her that it’s not you that walks back into the bedroom. When Joy and I did this, I rigged up a secret way to ring the doorbell from our bedside so that I could convince her that a friend was at the door. I chewed minty gum so that she could smell it on my breath when I came back in. And I tried to take a different approach than usual when I played with her on the bed.

Sadly it didn’t help for long, but it worked for a little while, and Joy was both afraid and amazingly turned on all at the same time. I made two mistakes that contributed to popping her balloon of illusion too quickly. The first was kissing her lips—I suggest that you don’t do that! The second was using the wrists-to-ankles position rather than tying her spreadeagle. She was able to feel too much of me with her hands, and that helped her to recognize me as well. Admittedly wrists-to-ankles is easier, more convenient and doesn’t require four connection points, and it worked well enough, so I have written it into the scenario above. But if you really want to make a good attempt at keeping your partner in doubt for the duration of the adventure, I’d suggest using the more confining spreadeagle instead.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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