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Friday Adventure Idea: Learning to Swallow

Recipe for Learning to Swallow

Back when Joy and I were vanilla, Joy had an issue with oral sex. Oh, it wasn’t the sucking part—she was fine with that. But she didn’t like for me to ejaculate in her mouth, and if I did so, she really didn’t like to swallow. As we began down the path of BDSM, it became clear that she wanted to learn to swallow (okay, what she actually wanted was to be MADE to swallow), but she didn’t like the taste and sensation of semen in her mouth. Eventually, with practice, Joy overcame this distaste, and I’d say at this point that being made to swallow holds some of the same attraction as a spanking—it’s not particularly enjoyable in the moment, but the feeling of submission it engenders is wonderful. Today’s adventure comes from one of the practice sessions we held to help her reach this point.

Because it involves the use of a gag, it is wise to have a “safe gesture” in place for this scenario. The adventure was written from a male Dominant/female submissive perspective, but could be modified somewhat to work with a male-male couple if desired. I’m afraid that for obvious reasons it won’t work as well for female Dominants.

You Will Need:

  • One set of comfortable cuffs
  • One snap hook
  • A ring gag of sufficient girth to allow you to insert your penis through it

Instructions:

I’d suggest your partner wear a babydoll nightgown for this scene—it’s decorative, and yet leaves her lower half fully available for use. You may choose to go a different direction if desired, as long as nothing she wears obstructs penetration. I’d suggest starting with a pair of boxer briefs for your own costume—that way you’ll be quickly ready for action.

Lay out your equipment before you start so that it is immediately handy. No need to place it out of sight—your partner won’t be able to deduce much from seeing it, and in this case, it doesn’t much matter if she figures out what you’re up to in advance.

  1. Preheat your partner nicely with kisses and caresses. Why? Because it’s always better to start with a warm oven!
  2. Buckle the cuffs around each of your partner’s wrists. Continue preheating as you do so.
  3. Lay your partner on her back, then draw her knees up to her chest. Bring her arms up around her legs and fasten her wrist cuffs together behind her knees with the snap hook. When you are done, she should be in a loose ball-tie position (see picture above).
  4. The ball tie nicely exposes your partner’s genital area. Take advantage of this for a moment or two by exploring her lower half with your tongue.
  5. When you are through with your exploration, insert the ring gag into her mouth, then gently lift her head and fasten the straps nice and tight around the back. The gag should be held securely in her mouth when you are through.
  6. Now, with your partner in position, it’s time to focus on increasing her submissive mindset for a few moments. Give her a slow, but thorough, spanking. The ball-tie position not only makes her bottom available but allows you to utilize her legs for leverage if she starts to wiggle. Do not stop until your are certain that the spanking has clearly conveyed the message that you may do as you please with her.
  7. When you are done, use her legs to turn her to face you and mount her. Take your time and enjoy her vagina. If desired, you may enjoy her ass instead. Continue moving inside her until you are very close to your orgasm. Do not come yet, however!
  8. When you are on the very edge of orgasm, pull out and move to her head, using her legs to help position her appropriately. Grasp her hair to hold her head immobile, then insert your penis through the ring gag into her mouth. Now go ahead and come. If you need to use your hand to masturbate a bit to get you over the last fence to your climax, that’s fine. Just be sure that your penis is through the gag and in the depths of her mouth before you let go.
  9. Instruct your partner to swallow the come in her mouth. Hold her head in position, using her hair as a handle to prevent her from turning to the side to let the semen dribble out. Be careful that she does not choke, but be firm that you require her to swallow.
  10. Afterwards, remove the gag and free her wrists and let her know that you are proud of her. Hold her close until you are both calm and peaceful.

Commentary:

Because this adventure is meant to leverage a strong sense of submission, there are no steps other than the pre-heating focused on giving pleasure to your partner. Instead, the instructions focus on setting up a situation where you use your partner for your own pleasure and she is helpless to do anything but submit. If you prefer, you could certainly introduce a vibrator or other toy and devote some time to helping her to an orgasm of her own, but it will definitely change the feeling of the adventure.

Certainly other bondage positions would work for this scene, but I like the ball-tie because of the advantages it provides. It is quick to set up and requires very little equipment, and it offers a deceptively strong amount of control. In a good ball-tie, the bound party has very little ability to move, and the legs provide an excellent source of leverage to twist and turn your partner about to meet your needs. In addition, the fact that it places your partner on her back looking up ensures that gravity will help the inexorable slide of your semen down her throat, while the gag prevents her from being able to spit it out.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Away from Home

Joy and I are lucky enough to have a dedicated “playroom”. Oh, it wasn’t designed for that purpose—originally it was just an extra bedroom in the house—but over the years we have made some modifications that make it particularly hospitable for BDSM activities. However, sometimes it’s a good thing not to play in the playroom. Sometimes extra fun can be had by playing somewhere else.

Sure, it’s possible to leverage the other rooms in the house, and that can be interesting as well, but in this case I’m talking about leaving the house entirely. Let’s face it—people are comfortable in their own homes. In fact, that sense of comfort is precisely what turns a house into a home in the first place! But part of the fun BDSM brings comes from taking one’s partner outside their comfort zone, and one way to accomplish this is through relocating one’s adventures. Tying up your submissive partner or making them submit to a spanking somewhere outside your house can be quite effective in getting their adrenaline pumping.

This actually works very well for a surprise adventure. Here’s an example from our own life a couple years ago:

It was right around the holidays (which is what made me think of this). We both had to work the Friday before Christmas, and for a treat, I suggested to Joy that she meet me at a restaurant close to my place of employment for dinner that night. The restaurant also happened to be located across the street from a hotel. Mid-afternoon I took a quick break from working, dropped by the hotel and checked into a room. I dropped off an overnight bag holding some necessary supplies (cuffs, etc.), placing it close to the door where it would be handy, and then went back to work. I had, of course, said nothing about the hotel to Joy.

Joy met me at the restaurant, looking lovely in the skirt and blouse she wore to her office that day, and we had a nice meal. At no time did I hint that there was anything other than dinner in the offing. But after paying the bill, I did not escort Joy back to her car. Rather, I took her by the hand and led her across the street to the hotel. As we waited for the light to change, she asked where we were going. I placed my finger across her lips and replied, “No questions.”

The hotel was the kind where you can enter the building from an exterior door without going through the lobby, so we were quickly in the room. My goal was to keep Joy off balance and outside her comfort zone for the duration of the adventure, so I performed the following tasks quickly and with no preamble:

  1. Unbuttoned and removed Joy’s blouse
  2. Unfastened the clasp of Joy’s bra and exposed her bare breasts
  3. Cuffed Joy’s hands behind her back (her eyes became wide and her nipples rather stiff at this point)
  4. Slid Joy’s panties down her legs and wadded them into a ball, then pushed them into her mouth and fastened them in place with a leather strap I had brought with me
  5. Turned Joy over my knee and administered a brief but sound spanking (by now she was breathing very rapidly and her nipples were fully erect—she confessed later that she was deathly afraid that someone would hear the spanking through the hotel walls)
  6. Laid her face down on the bed, applied a helping of lubricant, spread her cheeks, mounted her and then, after a pleasurable interval, deposited my semen deep inside her snug little ass.

Performed at home, this rather simple adventure would have been fun but unremarkable. However, being gagged, spanked and fucked in the ass in the unfamiliar environs of a hotel room with no advance notice to prepare her mindset both terrified and exhilarated Joy, and resulted in an evening of quite spectacular fun. The combination of surprise and foreign territory turned routine into magic for one night.

Since that time, Joy and I have had various adventures in a hotel room quite a few times, and sadly, the magic of unfamiliarity it once provided has faded. However, if this idea is new to you, you can still take advantage of the excitement it offers. And even if hotels are been-there-done-that for you as well, the idea of trying out a strange location is still worth considering. Hotels are easy, but there are other possibilities. Once the weather turns warmer again, I’m thinking about pitching a tent in the backyard and seeing how magical that can be…

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Beginner Exercises for Hesitant Submissives

There are some people who naturally fit neatly into the submissive role. They want to submit, they know they want to submit, and they are happy in their submission. If you (or your partner) fits that description, then this post really isn’t for you.

Instead, this post is for relationships that involve the other kind of submissive, the kind who wants to submit, who likes to submit, but does so against their better judgement, almost in spite of themselves. They don’t see themselves as submissive, and generally are not submissive in their everyday life. In fact, they often come into a BDSM relationship seeing submission as a bad thing, seeing it as a diminishment of themselves and their self image, but feeling drawn to it nonetheless. This type of submissive is more common than the former. Joy is, by the way, this kind of submissive.

The Submissive-In-Spite-Of-Themselves (let’s call them SISOTs from here on out) present a challenge for their Dominant partner, but precisely because of that challenge, can also be extremely rewarding to work with. The dominant half of a SISOT relationship must fight for every inch of progress, as the SISOT both wants and does not want to give them control. However, in the same way that food never tastes as good as when you’re really hungry, it is particularly sweet when the SISOT succumbs and grants their surrender.

The most important requirement for a relationship like this one is trust. Without trust, no progress will ever occur. However, assuming that trust is in place, the next most important requirement is patience! The dominant partner must be willing to go slow, to make headway in fits and starts, and be willing to back off and allow for rest periods of weeks or months to enable the SISOT to internalize what they’ve done and what they’ve learned about themselves. While the dominant will need to push to make progress, it must be done slowly and gently, or the internal balance between desire vs. self image will tilt and the SISOT will push back. Months of progress together may be washed away in a single night.

Over time and with practice, the SISOT partner becomes more comfortable with playing the submissive role, but it is definitely a journey. Especially at the beginning, it is important to reinforce the idea of submission gradually. Direct confrontation or discipline sessions are doomed to failure. Instead, the dominant partner should choose activities to which the SISOT finds it easy to submit. In other words, don’t pick something that they don’t want to do and require them to do it. Instead, select an activity that they are attracted to but perhaps haven’t let themselves try, and work on that. In some situations, it may be helpful to present the activity as a challenge, rather than something that you require. For instance, you may use language like, “I’d like you to do X tonight. Do you think you can do that for me?”

What kinds of activities could these be? Well, mileages will definitely vary depending on the unique situation. What works for one couple may very easily not work for another, as each individual and relationship are different. However, here are some relatively low-key activity suggestions to consider. Each not only reinforces submission subtly, but may (especially if tweaked to fit your specific situation) hold a secret appeal for budding SISOTs and their Dominant halves:

  • Shaving – As mentioned in the post I put up earlier this week, shaving makes a good D/s activity for beginners. The SISOT must shave an area of their body (which area is up to you) and then keep it clean shaven going forward. Alternatively, the SISOT must not shave an area of their body and leave it unshaven going forward. Examples: Joel must keep his legs shaven, Gina must shave her pubic hair, or Kelly must let the hair under her arms grow in.
  • Bondage – The Dominant gradually introduces bondage into the relationship, starting slowly and becoming gradually stricter over time. Example: Randall first blindfolds his girlfriend, Laura, during sex. Next time, he cuffs her hands behind her back.
  • Undergarments – The Dominant requests (and eventually requires) that the SISOT wear a certain type/color of undergarment (or that they do not wear a particular undergarment at all) during certain time frames or situations. Example: Andrew must wear women’s panties this week, or Julie may not wear a bra out to dinner tonight.
  • Masturbation – The submissive partner must masturbate during a given time frame and then tell the Dominant partner what they did, where they did it, and what they fantasized about while doing it. Example: Marianne requires that Caroline masturbate at some point during the day and then explain what she did and thought about when they go to bed that night.
  • Pretending – The Dominant partner should pick a scenario that is well outside the comfort zone of the SISOT, and then request that they fantasize about (and possibly even roleplay) that scenario during their next session together. Example: James requests that he and his wife, Anne, role play having a threesome in bed together.

As stated above, these options are meant to be a menu, and couples should order off it according to what appeals to them. They should feel free to modify the entree’ they choose as necessary to meet the needs of their relationship. The key is to select something that will enable the two partners to play their respective roles and reinforce the idea of Domination and submission in a way that is palatable to both. And the hope is that by practicing on easier exercises, like these, the SISOT will become more comfortable in their view of both submission and themselves, and that will enable them to more fully embrace their desire to submit.

Enjoy Yourself!

Jake

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Friday Adventure Idea: Make Her Laugh

Recipe for Make Her Laugh

I thought today we’d go in a different direction for a change. Did you know that throughout history, tickling has been used as a form of torture? When applied with determination, it can be a powerful lever to convince the subject to provide information, obey instruction, and generally reach a state of acquiescence. In other words, it can compel submission.

In this adventure, we are going to use tickling, rather than spanking or some other means of causing pain, to ensure your partner submits to you. Because this is a light-hearted adventure, it’s a good one for relative beginners. But be warned! Tickling is far more likely to trigger the use of a safe word than a spanking! In fact, when I enacted this scenario with Joy, we did it under modified safe word guidelines, in which use of her safe word would require me to pause and make certain she was physically safe, but then allow me to continue with the exercise.

Obviously, your partner must be ticklish for this to work. For my instructions below, I’m assuming that their underarms are a location on their body sensitive to tickling. If this is not true for your partner, you’ll need to adjust to focus on a more fruitful area! As always, this is written from my perspective—that of a male Dominant with a female submissive partner. However, roles and genders may be switched with no impact on the adventure.

You Will Need:

  • 1 pair wrist cuffs (and they need to be good, strong, non-abrasive ones, because your partner will likely be tugging at them with her full strength)
  • 1 collar with o-ring
  • 1 snap hook
  • Other bondage equipment may optionally be used to secure your partner’s legs or ensure that they are more fully immobilized if desired

Instructions:

Tickling will prove a powerful source of motivation to make your partner submit, but before you begin, you need to figure out something that you want them to submit to! I can’t guess what this should be—you’ll need to decide that for yourself. When I conducted this adventure years ago with Joy, my choice was to require her to swallow after a blow job. At that point, swallowing was not something she enjoyed, though she had a deep-down desire to be made to do it. This exercise worked nicely to help her take a step towards overcoming her difficulty with the act. Options for your own partner are wide, and could include anything from anal sex to allowing you to shave her pubic hair to…well, as I said, you’ll know better than I. Do not, however, pick something that you believe is out of reach for her or that she truly does not want to do! That might lead you to cross the line of consensuality.

The best clothing option for your partner to wear for this adventure is probably a nice bra and panty set. That way all the ticklish bits are nicely exposed! There are no particular dress requirements for you—dress however you are comfortable.

  1. It’s almost always nice to start with a warm oven! Pre-heat your partner to raise her temperature level. Put the cuffs on her wrists and the collar around her neck as you do so. Be sure the O-ring of the collar is positioned at the back of her neck.
  2. When the cuffs are on, use the snap hook to connect your partner’s wrists together in front of her. Continue pre-heating as you lift her joined wrists up and over the top of her head and attach them to the O-ring of the collar, forming an over arm tie position. This make your partner’s breasts highly available (always a good thing), but more importantly, it will also expose her highly ticklish underarms nicely.
  3. If you’re going to use other bondage equipment to secure your partner’s legs or body, now’s the time to do so. Just be sure she remains face up on the bed when she is fully bound.
  4. Kiss your partner’s lips and neck and move down over her chest. However, rather than progressing to her breasts, this time kiss your way up and into her armpits. Kiss, nuzzle and nibble them and see what reaction you get. If your partner is ticklish like Joy, you’ll trigger a few gasps of laughter and a lot of wiggling.
  5. Stop and tell you partner that you expect her to be a very good girl and to give you everything you want tonight. Move up to straddle her belly and look her in the eye. Tell her, “If you don’t obey me, I will have to discipline you.”
  6. As you say the words above, begin to tickle your partner under the arms. She will laugh, thrash and wiggle, which is why you are straddling her. Your weight will help to keep her helpless and in your control. Because of the cuffs, she will be unable to bring her arms down to stop your tickling. After a moment, stop and ask her, “Are you going to give me everything I want tonight?”
  7. Chances are excellent that you’ll receive a positive answer. If not, tickle her mercilessly until you do. Once she agrees to your general requirement to do whatever you ask, move onto specifics. Request that she do individual actions or grant you access to individual areas of her body. Examples might include “Will you show me your breasts?” or “Will you spread your legs so that I can see how wet you are?” Tickle her after each request until she is gasping out the word “yes” over and over. Once she agrees to a request, make her fulfill her promise. If she agrees that you can see her breasts, for instance, then remove her bra to expose them.
  8. After you’ve gone through several requests as described above, move to your true objective. Ask your partner to perform the act you selected before the adventure began. Because this action will be harder for her to agree to, be firm, and use tickling to enforce compliance. (However, remember that this is consensual BDSM and she has the option to say “no” and mean it!) When Joy and I acted this out, our conversation sounded something like this:
    “Will you make me come in your mouth? Will you swallow every drop–not let a single drop spill?”

    {tickling}

    “I’ll try….I’ll try!…I’ll try my best.”

    “That’s not good enough, Joy.”

    {tickling}

    “Yes!..Oh, God…Jake! Yes!…I will!”

    “Will you? How do I know for sure?”

    {tickling}

    “I promise! I promise that I will! I promise!”

  9. Do not free your partner. Inform her that you expect her to do as she said she would, and that you will continue tickling her unless she does so. Then, make her fulfill her commitment. If she does not comply, resume tickling until she does.
  10. Afterwards, free your partner and hold her close. Kiss her and caress her. Praise her for doing well and remind her that she belongs to you.

Commentary:

I have spanked Joy literally hundreds of times, a couple times to the point of tears. I have clamped her nipples and smacked her vulva with a riding crop. And yet she dreads the idea of being tickled again more than any of these. Tickling is a powerful motivator—use it with care.

There are many ways to vary the bondage position used for this exercise, and another position may be required if you wish to focus on another part of her body. The bottoms of her feet are a notably fruitful area to consider. If you want some ideas of other ways to use tickling during an adventure, look on the internet—there are many erotic tickling movies you can view for inspiration.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Friday Adventure Idea: Just Say “Yes”

Recipe for Just Say “Yes”:

This is a recipe where improvisation is definitely in order! I lay out a set of suggested steps and wording in the instructions below, but feel free to make changes and play different riffs on the overall theme when you enact it. As long as the basic premise remains the same, the result should turn out just fine.

I highly recommend having a safe word in place for this adventure—please establish one before you begin. Though I’ve written as a male Dominant with a female submissive partner, all activities here are non-gender-specific, and this will work just as well even if roles and genders are mixed and matched.

You Will Need:

  • 1 pair wrist cuffs
  • 1 or more snap hooks
  • 1 overhead connection point (or if you don’t have one, a connection point mounted at head-height or higher would be slightly awkward, but workable)
  • 1 set variable tension nipple clamps (i.e. the kind that you can tighten to increase the amount of “pinch”)
  • 1 implement for spanking (any type will work, including bare hands, but more severe is better—I used our switch when Joy and I did this)
  • a vibrator

Instructions:

You will need full access to your partner’s nipples, bottom and genitals for this adventure. Practically speaking, any lingerie options that provide this access will work. However, to go along with the theme of the adventure, I suggest that you might want to try to invoke a feeling of innocence with your partner’s dress. Joy wore her white, lacey, cupless bra and a very short, white crinoline skirt with nothing underneath. She looked almost angelic when we began.

You may dress however you like—I believe I started out wearing a pair of jeans and no shirt. However, this would be a good opportunity for you to break out your dungeon garb if you own any. A chain-and-leather harness would contrast nicely with your partner’s soft, innocent look.

Go ahead and lay out your equipment in full view before your partner joins you. In this case, anticipation is your friend–you’d like her to see what you have waiting for her. As a precaution, note that it is not good to leave nipple clamps on for too extended a duration, so bear that in mind and time the scenario accordingly.

  1. Your partner will need to be nicely pre-heated for this adventure. Don’t skimp on this! Use whatever tricks work best to raise her temperature setting to a toasty “bake”, and keep her there as you have the following conversation with her.
  2. Explain that you want your partner to be a very good girl tonight, and to be a good girl she must obey your instructions. Tell her that, in fact, you expect her to be strictly obedient, so much so that she has lost the ability to use the word “no” during this adventure. No matter what you ask of her, her only answer can be “yes”. Saying “no” is not allowed. When you’ve explained this, confirm that she understands.
  3. When your partner has assented, ask her politely if you may cuff her. Having just had the previous conversation, hopefully she will say “yes”! Place the cuffs around her wrists and then use the snap hook to attach them to the connection point overhead.
  4. In this position, your partner’s breasts are yours to play with. Caress them, tease her nipples up and kiss them. As you do so, ask your partner a series of questions that establish your ownership of her, questions that she can easily answer “yes” to. Examples might include such things as, “Does your body belong to me?” or “May I have this sweet ass whenever I want it?”
  5. After you’ve gotten her to answer “yes” several times, and after her nipples are fully erect from your ministrations, tell her that her nipples look like they badly want to be clamped. Ask her, “Do your nipples want to be clamped, my dear?” Guess what her answer will be!
  6. Attach the clamps to her nipples so that they are tight enough to stay on, but not overly tight. Then move on to play with another portion of your partner’s body, perhaps her bottom, for instance. As you caress her, continue to ask questions she can answer “yes” to. “Do you like it when I touch you here?” Will you do as you are told?”
  7. After several more yesses, remark that the clamps on your partner’s nipples don’t seem tight enough. “Don’t you think they need to be a little tighter, honey?” you should ask.
  8. Probably you will get a reluctant “yes” here. If you get a “no” instead, you’ll need to skip ahead to step 9 to see what to do. For the moment, let’s assume she answered with a positive. Tighten the clamp on her left nipple. Make it good and tight, enough so that she can clearly feel it. Kiss her and hold her. Caress her body. Let her nipple begin to get used to the pain of the clamp. Say, “There, now your nipple has what it wanted. Isn’t that better?” She will likely respond with a weak affirmative. Then whisper, “Oh, but your poor right nipple! It didn’t get what it wants! We should give your right nipple the same treatment we gave your left one, shouldn’t we? Isn’t that the fair thing to do?”
  9. Depending on your partner, you may continue to get yesses for awhile longer, but somewhere in here you’re going to hit a “no”. When you do, you should:
    • Immediately remind your partner that “no” is forbidden to her for this adventure, and that she promised to be a good girl and obey.
    • Take the spanking implement you have selected and deliver four or five firm strokes across her bare bottom. She needs to feel them.
    • Re-confirm with your partner that “yes” is the only answer she has available to her during this adventure.
    • Return to what you were doing before you received the “no” response and repeat the exact question she said “no” to. This time you should get a positive answer.
  10. Tighten the right nipple clamp to match the left one. Then ask, “Shall I get the vibrator, darling?” Use the vibrator to keep your partner simmering on the edge of orgasm as you continue.
  11. By now you should see the pattern here. Continue to ask your partner questions that she can answer “yes” to. “Do you like this?” “Do you want to come?” But every once in awhile ask one that she’d clearly prefer to answer with a “no” instead. Good options include:
    • ”Those clamps still look a little loose. Shall I tighten them just a bit more?”
    • ”You have such a greedy pussy”. Greedy pussies need a little spanking to teach them a lesson. Don’t you think your pussy needs to be taught a lesson, darling?”
    • ”You know, a little weight always helps a nipple clamp to do its job. Shall I hang one of these snap hooks on the chain between your nipple clamps, honey?”
    • ”And now I think a spanking is in order. I was going to give you twenty-five strokes, but now I wonder if fifty would be better. Would you prefer fifty, my dear?”

    You can probably come up with other options if you try. Any “no” response should immediately be punished as described above, and then the question should be re-asked so that your partner can answer “yes”. Continue to use the vibrator, your hands and your mouth to keep your partner’s temperature hot and her excitement level high.

  12. At some point, you (and your partner!) will have had enough. Your last question to her should be something like, “Do you want me to fuck you now, my dear?” When she responds “yes”, detach her cuffs from the overhead connection point and connect them together behind her back instead. Immediately position her however you would like for entry, mount her and ride her until you reach orgasm.
  13. Afterwards, remove the nipple clamps slowly and gently. They will hurt coming off! Hold your partner in your arms and tell her that you are proud of her for being a good girl and obeying you.

Commentary:

To reiterate, you don’t need to stick to the script I’ve laid out above. Feel free to improvise other questions and activities. As long as you are making your partner say “yes” to things they’d rather say “no” to, you’re keeping with the spirit of the adventure.

Note that it’s possible you’ll never get a “no” response at all. If your partner has the willpower to continue to submit for the duration, that’s a good thing. Be proud of her! The adventure will still reinforce her submission even if you never have to punish her.

Other bondage positions could certainly be used for this activity, though access to parts of your partner’s body may be obstructed. It would also be possible to spank other portions of your partner’s body—thighs or breasts, for instance. Regardless of the specific activities you choose, attempt to keep her on the border between pain and excitement, where the two sensations seem to overlap and meld. That’s the sweet spot you’re aiming for.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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