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A Proper Blow Job

Blow jobs are kind of like pizza. Even when they’re bad, they’re still pretty good. Joy has considerable talent in the field of blow jobs, and regardless of the style or position she delivers one in, it is an experience, let me tell you!

Nonetheless, we have guidelines for a “proper” blow job in our house. A proper blow job is not always what I am looking for and not always what I require of her, but when I tell Joy that I want a “proper blow job”, she knows exactly what I mean. I thought it might be fun to share our guidelines with you.

The requirements for a proper blow job are as follows:

  • Joy must be on her knees in front of me
  • She may wear panties if desired. Other than that, she must be completely naked.
  • She may use only her mouth to service me. No other parts of her body are permitted to be used.
  • Hands must be kept behind her back the entire time. They may be cuffed or tied behind her if I choose, but I may also simply require her to hold them behind her back.
  • She must swallow. I sometimes choose to end in a facial instead, but if I decide to come in her mouth, she must swallow.

We have worked on this many, many times, and Joy has become quite expert. Despite the repetition, however, there is still something just a little magic about this act. When I come home from work and catch Joy in the kitchen, and tell her, “Joy, I’d like a proper blow job,” there is more than a whiff of humiliation in making her drop whatever she is doing, quickly strip down to her panties, and use her mouth to suck me off, especially if I tell her she needs to “Hurry up!’ as she is getting undressed.

It’s quite wonderful to have a pretty woman, naked, with her face a bit pink, getting down on her knees in front of you. Sometimes I find that a bit of spanking is required after the pants are off but before the blow job begins in earnest—Joy wiggles most beautifully in my lap, and the sight of her perky nipples afterwards as she drops to her knees and settles me into her warm mouth adds greatly to the experience. When I am done, I hold Joy close and tell her how good she has made me feel, and how glad I am to have her as my wife.

As I said before, this is far from the only type of blow job we engage in around our house, but it is a frequent and somewhat meaningful practice. I guess, in a way, it’s a sort of a ritual we follow, one that has been built up over time. It’s just one of the things that makes our relationship special…

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Bondage Positions for Blow Jobs

Bondage Positions for Receiving Blow Jobs

Before I begin, I want to remind readers that I am a bondage pragmatist. In other words, I prefer function over form and simplicity to complexity when it comes to bondage. I am absolutely certain that someone, somewhere has created the perfect bondage position in which their partner hangs suspended upside down from the rafters in a web of lovingly crafted knots, placing their mouth at the perfect height to administer an oral favor. However, that someone is not me, and I’m not going to focus on complicated systems of restraints like that.

Instead, I’m going to focus on quick and easy positions that deliver against what I consider to be the two primary criteria when combining bondage with receiving a blow job. Those criteria are:

  • Control and it’s antithesis, helplessness: This is, after all, the reason for bondage in the first place. A good bondage position maximizes the Dominant’s control and emphasizes the helplessness and vulnerability of the submissive.
  • Oral Accessibility: The quality of a blow job depends on the recipient’s ability to make effective use of their partner’s mouth. Positions which block access or deny adequate movement reduce the pleasure of the experience.

With that in mind, I submit that there are really just two optimal positions for a bound blow job. Other positions in which oral sex is possible certainly exist—the hog tie, for instance—but while they should not be overlooked, they do not provide the same quality of experience as the two best options. These two options deliver quality in spades!

  • Option 1: Kneeling, Hands Bound Behind

    To implement this position, bind your partner’s hands out of the way behind them and then place them on their knees while you stand before them. Their ability to lean forward and back, use their knees to adjust their height and angle of attack, and freedom to move their head as desired provide excellent oral accessibility and makes this a wonderful blow job experience. More than that, the act of kneeling in front of you while you stand creates a delicious feeling of submission for them, while the fact that their hands are restrained and out of the way allows you to grasp and guide their head as you desire (aren’t ponytails wonderful?) and finish the experience as you see fit.

    Hands may be bound in a variety of ways. The simplest option is to simply cuff them behind your partner’s back, but you may also cuff each individual wrist to the corresponding ankle, or if you have a bondage belt, cuff them to the connection points at each side. Or, to heighten the feeling of submission to its maximum, cuff your partner’s hands together, pull them up over and behind their head, and attach the cuffs to the connection ring at the end of an already-inserted Rope Master (and if you don’t have one of these, now would be the time to get one!).

  • Option 2: Lying Face Up, Head Hanging Off the Edge of the Bed

    To place your partner in this position, arrange them so that they lay face up on the bed with their head extending just over one edge. Stretch out their hands and legs and secure them to the bedframe using cuffs, ropes or other connections. When properly positioned, your partner’s head will tilt down and back, giving you full access to their mouth and a wonderful angle for deep throat penetration.

    The previous position allowed your partner to move to provide you with pleasure. In this position, however, they have little flexibility for movement. Instead, their mouth is positioned to allow you to thrust into it, essentially giving you free rein to use their mouth. Again, this position creates an excellent sense of Domination and submission, and as a bonus, it enables you to play with your partner’s outstretched body while you take your pleasure if you desire. If you truly want to maximize the feeling of helplessness for them, consider introducing a ring gag, which prevents them from being able to close their mouth while still allowing you to penetrate.

    Care must be taken to ensure that you are not overly rough when using this position. Your partner cannot prevent you from thrusting as deeply as you want, and therefore opportunities for going excessively deep and triggering a gag reflex abound. Be gentle, especially if you have not tried this before! As with the first position, you have control over how and where you choose to finish, with many lovely options provided by the scenic vista spread before you.

  • One thing to note is that this post assumes that the Dominant partner is the one receiving the blow job. If your relationship dynamic is such that the Dominant partner will be giving the blow job instead—a perfectly valid configuration–a whole different menu of options opens. But those options will need to be covered in another post…

    Enjoy yourself,

    Jake

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In Defense of the Facial

I’d like to say a few words about “facials”. Facials are, of course, a subset of the species Blowinium Jobius, and because of that, perhaps it’s best for us to begin at the basic blow job and move on from there…

Blow jobs are wonderful things. Not only do they feel great to the recipient, but they can also play quite an important role in a BDSM relationship which features a male Top, as they lend themselves so well to Domination. Requiring your submissive partner to take you into their mouth and give you pleasure while they, in return, receive little-to-no stimulation themselves certainly establishes a hierarchy of whose needs are going to be met first! More than that, there’s a certain feeling of being “in charge” that comes from using your partner’s mouth as a receptacle for your penis.

Like most guys, when it comes to reaching the climax of a blow job, I feel the location that provides the best overall sensation is inside my partner’s mouth. It’s warm and moist and slippery and…receptive. Given the option, this would be the destination of choice for my ejaculation nine times out of ten. However…there is that tenth time. And I thought I’d talk about it today.

Allow me to put in a plug for the “facial”. If you ever look at pornography, either online or via video, you’ve certainly seen men performing this act. They ejaculate across their partner’s face, rather than in their mouth or other location, generally laying a trail of semen across their cheek, lips and hair. It’s kind of a messy act, all-in-all, but appears ubiquitous across all pornographic venues today.

Throughout my twenties, I felt that the facial was rather repulsive and kind of dumb, frankly. The messiness didn’t appeal to me, for one thing—it felt like the ejaculator was purposely trying to make oral sex sloppier by drawing attention to the squirting sperm. Also, I didn’t like the “showing off” aspect it provided, almost as though the act were designed specifically to be captured on film for viewing by a third party. And finally, it also appeared to be a lost opportunity. You’ve got a warm and willing mouth right there, one that’s usually helped you get right to the verge of orgasm—why not take advantage of it?

But over time, particularly as I’ve developed my BDSM skill set, I’ve come to realize that the facial has a purpose I had missed. It takes the sense of Domination and submission already inherent in a standard blow job and magnifies it. Because of this, I confess that I’ve added it to my Dominant repertoire for occasional use.

One’s face is the body part most deeply associated with one’s sense of self (contrary to popular belief, even for men, it is not the sex organ). If one thinks about oneself, the image that comes most readily to mind is the face one sees when looking in the mirror. And so, by allowing their partner to ejaculate across, upon or all over their face, the submissive partner conveys the message, “I give you my very self to use as you see fit, without regard to my dignity, my cleanliness or my pleasure”. If the recipient of the facial is female, there’s an added dimension to this. Although it is a stereotype that women care more about their appearance than men, I believe that like most stereotypes, this one holds at least a modicum of truth. A female partner who submits to a spurt of come across her face has placed her partner’s desire ahead of her own appearance, emphasizing the depth of her acquiescence.

From the Dominant perspective, the commonality between the facial and the instinct of males to mark their territory cannot be disregarded. While this may seem primitive to some, I believe that we humans are ruled far more sternly by instincts baked into our genetic code than we ever admit. By coming across their partner’s face, the Dominant invokes that instinctive display of territoriality to make the symbolic statement, “You are mine!” loudly and clearly.

Between these two, mutually-reinforcing, non-verbal messages, the D/s impact of a facial can be very great. Add in a firm grasp of the submissive’s hair to hold their head steady at just the right time, plus the natural tendency for the recipient of the facial to close their eyes and wait for the eruption, and you have just about a perfect expression of Domination and submission.

So, though it’s never going to be my favorite, and in most cases I prefer the warmth of Joy’s lips around me, an occasional use of the facial has proven to have a positive impact. While you may decide to let sensation guide your decision and end in your partner’s mouth, don’t overlook the possibility of the facial. Sometimes an extra expression of Dominance is worth the tradeoff of coming out in the cold.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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