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Away from Home

Joy and I are lucky enough to have a dedicated “playroom”. Oh, it wasn’t designed for that purpose—originally it was just an extra bedroom in the house—but over the years we have made some modifications that make it particularly hospitable for BDSM activities. However, sometimes it’s a good thing not to play in the playroom. Sometimes extra fun can be had by playing somewhere else.

Sure, it’s possible to leverage the other rooms in the house, and that can be interesting as well, but in this case I’m talking about leaving the house entirely. Let’s face it—people are comfortable in their own homes. In fact, that sense of comfort is precisely what turns a house into a home in the first place! But part of the fun BDSM brings comes from taking one’s partner outside their comfort zone, and one way to accomplish this is through relocating one’s adventures. Tying up your submissive partner or making them submit to a spanking somewhere outside your house can be quite effective in getting their adrenaline pumping.

This actually works very well for a surprise adventure. Here’s an example from our own life a couple years ago:

It was right around the holidays (which is what made me think of this). We both had to work the Friday before Christmas, and for a treat, I suggested to Joy that she meet me at a restaurant close to my place of employment for dinner that night. The restaurant also happened to be located across the street from a hotel. Mid-afternoon I took a quick break from working, dropped by the hotel and checked into a room. I dropped off an overnight bag holding some necessary supplies (cuffs, etc.), placing it close to the door where it would be handy, and then went back to work. I had, of course, said nothing about the hotel to Joy.

Joy met me at the restaurant, looking lovely in the skirt and blouse she wore to her office that day, and we had a nice meal. At no time did I hint that there was anything other than dinner in the offing. But after paying the bill, I did not escort Joy back to her car. Rather, I took her by the hand and led her across the street to the hotel. As we waited for the light to change, she asked where we were going. I placed my finger across her lips and replied, “No questions.”

The hotel was the kind where you can enter the building from an exterior door without going through the lobby, so we were quickly in the room. My goal was to keep Joy off balance and outside her comfort zone for the duration of the adventure, so I performed the following tasks quickly and with no preamble:

  1. Unbuttoned and removed Joy’s blouse
  2. Unfastened the clasp of Joy’s bra and exposed her bare breasts
  3. Cuffed Joy’s hands behind her back (her eyes became wide and her nipples rather stiff at this point)
  4. Slid Joy’s panties down her legs and wadded them into a ball, then pushed them into her mouth and fastened them in place with a leather strap I had brought with me
  5. Turned Joy over my knee and administered a brief but sound spanking (by now she was breathing very rapidly and her nipples were fully erect—she confessed later that she was deathly afraid that someone would hear the spanking through the hotel walls)
  6. Laid her face down on the bed, applied a helping of lubricant, spread her cheeks, mounted her and then, after a pleasurable interval, deposited my semen deep inside her snug little ass.

Performed at home, this rather simple adventure would have been fun but unremarkable. However, being gagged, spanked and fucked in the ass in the unfamiliar environs of a hotel room with no advance notice to prepare her mindset both terrified and exhilarated Joy, and resulted in an evening of quite spectacular fun. The combination of surprise and foreign territory turned routine into magic for one night.

Since that time, Joy and I have had various adventures in a hotel room quite a few times, and sadly, the magic of unfamiliarity it once provided has faded. However, if this idea is new to you, you can still take advantage of the excitement it offers. And even if hotels are been-there-done-that for you as well, the idea of trying out a strange location is still worth considering. Hotels are easy, but there are other possibilities. Once the weather turns warmer again, I’m thinking about pitching a tent in the backyard and seeing how magical that can be…

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Beginner Exercises for Hesitant Submissives

There are some people who naturally fit neatly into the submissive role. They want to submit, they know they want to submit, and they are happy in their submission. If you (or your partner) fits that description, then this post really isn’t for you.

Instead, this post is for relationships that involve the other kind of submissive, the kind who wants to submit, who likes to submit, but does so against their better judgement, almost in spite of themselves. They don’t see themselves as submissive, and generally are not submissive in their everyday life. In fact, they often come into a BDSM relationship seeing submission as a bad thing, seeing it as a diminishment of themselves and their self image, but feeling drawn to it nonetheless. This type of submissive is more common than the former. Joy is, by the way, this kind of submissive.

The Submissive-In-Spite-Of-Themselves (let’s call them SISOTs from here on out) present a challenge for their Dominant partner, but precisely because of that challenge, can also be extremely rewarding to work with. The dominant half of a SISOT relationship must fight for every inch of progress, as the SISOT both wants and does not want to give them control. However, in the same way that food never tastes as good as when you’re really hungry, it is particularly sweet when the SISOT succumbs and grants their surrender.

The most important requirement for a relationship like this one is trust. Without trust, no progress will ever occur. However, assuming that trust is in place, the next most important requirement is patience! The dominant partner must be willing to go slow, to make headway in fits and starts, and be willing to back off and allow for rest periods of weeks or months to enable the SISOT to internalize what they’ve done and what they’ve learned about themselves. While the dominant will need to push to make progress, it must be done slowly and gently, or the internal balance between desire vs. self image will tilt and the SISOT will push back. Months of progress together may be washed away in a single night.

Over time and with practice, the SISOT partner becomes more comfortable with playing the submissive role, but it is definitely a journey. Especially at the beginning, it is important to reinforce the idea of submission gradually. Direct confrontation or discipline sessions are doomed to failure. Instead, the dominant partner should choose activities to which the SISOT finds it easy to submit. In other words, don’t pick something that they don’t want to do and require them to do it. Instead, select an activity that they are attracted to but perhaps haven’t let themselves try, and work on that. In some situations, it may be helpful to present the activity as a challenge, rather than something that you require. For instance, you may use language like, “I’d like you to do X tonight. Do you think you can do that for me?”

What kinds of activities could these be? Well, mileages will definitely vary depending on the unique situation. What works for one couple may very easily not work for another, as each individual and relationship are different. However, here are some relatively low-key activity suggestions to consider. Each not only reinforces submission subtly, but may (especially if tweaked to fit your specific situation) hold a secret appeal for budding SISOTs and their Dominant halves:

  • Shaving – As mentioned in the post I put up earlier this week, shaving makes a good D/s activity for beginners. The SISOT must shave an area of their body (which area is up to you) and then keep it clean shaven going forward. Alternatively, the SISOT must not shave an area of their body and leave it unshaven going forward. Examples: Joel must keep his legs shaven, Gina must shave her pubic hair, or Kelly must let the hair under her arms grow in.
  • Bondage – The Dominant gradually introduces bondage into the relationship, starting slowly and becoming gradually stricter over time. Example: Randall first blindfolds his girlfriend, Laura, during sex. Next time, he cuffs her hands behind her back.
  • Undergarments – The Dominant requests (and eventually requires) that the SISOT wear a certain type/color of undergarment (or that they do not wear a particular undergarment at all) during certain time frames or situations. Example: Andrew must wear women’s panties this week, or Julie may not wear a bra out to dinner tonight.
  • Masturbation – The submissive partner must masturbate during a given time frame and then tell the Dominant partner what they did, where they did it, and what they fantasized about while doing it. Example: Marianne requires that Caroline masturbate at some point during the day and then explain what she did and thought about when they go to bed that night.
  • Pretending – The Dominant partner should pick a scenario that is well outside the comfort zone of the SISOT, and then request that they fantasize about (and possibly even roleplay) that scenario during their next session together. Example: James requests that he and his wife, Anne, role play having a threesome in bed together.

As stated above, these options are meant to be a menu, and couples should order off it according to what appeals to them. They should feel free to modify the entree’ they choose as necessary to meet the needs of their relationship. The key is to select something that will enable the two partners to play their respective roles and reinforce the idea of Domination and submission in a way that is palatable to both. And the hope is that by practicing on easier exercises, like these, the SISOT will become more comfortable in their view of both submission and themselves, and that will enable them to more fully embrace their desire to submit.

Enjoy Yourself!

Jake

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Friday Adventure Idea: Make Her Laugh

Recipe for Make Her Laugh

I thought today we’d go in a different direction for a change. Did you know that throughout history, tickling has been used as a form of torture? When applied with determination, it can be a powerful lever to convince the subject to provide information, obey instruction, and generally reach a state of acquiescence. In other words, it can compel submission.

In this adventure, we are going to use tickling, rather than spanking or some other means of causing pain, to ensure your partner submits to you. Because this is a light-hearted adventure, it’s a good one for relative beginners. But be warned! Tickling is far more likely to trigger the use of a safe word than a spanking! In fact, when I enacted this scenario with Joy, we did it under modified safe word guidelines, in which use of her safe word would require me to pause and make certain she was physically safe, but then allow me to continue with the exercise.

Obviously, your partner must be ticklish for this to work. For my instructions below, I’m assuming that their underarms are a location on their body sensitive to tickling. If this is not true for your partner, you’ll need to adjust to focus on a more fruitful area! As always, this is written from my perspective—that of a male Dominant with a female submissive partner. However, roles and genders may be switched with no impact on the adventure.

You Will Need:

  • 1 pair wrist cuffs (and they need to be good, strong, non-abrasive ones, because your partner will likely be tugging at them with her full strength)
  • 1 collar with o-ring
  • 1 snap hook
  • Other bondage equipment may optionally be used to secure your partner’s legs or ensure that they are more fully immobilized if desired

Instructions:

Tickling will prove a powerful source of motivation to make your partner submit, but before you begin, you need to figure out something that you want them to submit to! I can’t guess what this should be—you’ll need to decide that for yourself. When I conducted this adventure years ago with Joy, my choice was to require her to swallow after a blow job. At that point, swallowing was not something she enjoyed, though she had a deep-down desire to be made to do it. This exercise worked nicely to help her take a step towards overcoming her difficulty with the act. Options for your own partner are wide, and could include anything from anal sex to allowing you to shave her pubic hair to…well, as I said, you’ll know better than I. Do not, however, pick something that you believe is out of reach for her or that she truly does not want to do! That might lead you to cross the line of consensuality.

The best clothing option for your partner to wear for this adventure is probably a nice bra and panty set. That way all the ticklish bits are nicely exposed! There are no particular dress requirements for you—dress however you are comfortable.

  1. It’s almost always nice to start with a warm oven! Pre-heat your partner to raise her temperature level. Put the cuffs on her wrists and the collar around her neck as you do so. Be sure the O-ring of the collar is positioned at the back of her neck.
  2. When the cuffs are on, use the snap hook to connect your partner’s wrists together in front of her. Continue pre-heating as you lift her joined wrists up and over the top of her head and attach them to the O-ring of the collar, forming an over arm tie position. This make your partner’s breasts highly available (always a good thing), but more importantly, it will also expose her highly ticklish underarms nicely.
  3. If you’re going to use other bondage equipment to secure your partner’s legs or body, now’s the time to do so. Just be sure she remains face up on the bed when she is fully bound.
  4. Kiss your partner’s lips and neck and move down over her chest. However, rather than progressing to her breasts, this time kiss your way up and into her armpits. Kiss, nuzzle and nibble them and see what reaction you get. If your partner is ticklish like Joy, you’ll trigger a few gasps of laughter and a lot of wiggling.
  5. Stop and tell you partner that you expect her to be a very good girl and to give you everything you want tonight. Move up to straddle her belly and look her in the eye. Tell her, “If you don’t obey me, I will have to discipline you.”
  6. As you say the words above, begin to tickle your partner under the arms. She will laugh, thrash and wiggle, which is why you are straddling her. Your weight will help to keep her helpless and in your control. Because of the cuffs, she will be unable to bring her arms down to stop your tickling. After a moment, stop and ask her, “Are you going to give me everything I want tonight?”
  7. Chances are excellent that you’ll receive a positive answer. If not, tickle her mercilessly until you do. Once she agrees to your general requirement to do whatever you ask, move onto specifics. Request that she do individual actions or grant you access to individual areas of her body. Examples might include “Will you show me your breasts?” or “Will you spread your legs so that I can see how wet you are?” Tickle her after each request until she is gasping out the word “yes” over and over. Once she agrees to a request, make her fulfill her promise. If she agrees that you can see her breasts, for instance, then remove her bra to expose them.
  8. After you’ve gone through several requests as described above, move to your true objective. Ask your partner to perform the act you selected before the adventure began. Because this action will be harder for her to agree to, be firm, and use tickling to enforce compliance. (However, remember that this is consensual BDSM and she has the option to say “no” and mean it!) When Joy and I acted this out, our conversation sounded something like this:
    “Will you make me come in your mouth? Will you swallow every drop–not let a single drop spill?”

    {tickling}

    “I’ll try….I’ll try!…I’ll try my best.”

    “That’s not good enough, Joy.”

    {tickling}

    “Yes!..Oh, God…Jake! Yes!…I will!”

    “Will you? How do I know for sure?”

    {tickling}

    “I promise! I promise that I will! I promise!”

  9. Do not free your partner. Inform her that you expect her to do as she said she would, and that you will continue tickling her unless she does so. Then, make her fulfill her commitment. If she does not comply, resume tickling until she does.
  10. Afterwards, free your partner and hold her close. Kiss her and caress her. Praise her for doing well and remind her that she belongs to you.

Commentary:

I have spanked Joy literally hundreds of times, a couple times to the point of tears. I have clamped her nipples and smacked her vulva with a riding crop. And yet she dreads the idea of being tickled again more than any of these. Tickling is a powerful motivator—use it with care.

There are many ways to vary the bondage position used for this exercise, and another position may be required if you wish to focus on another part of her body. The bottoms of her feet are a notably fruitful area to consider. If you want some ideas of other ways to use tickling during an adventure, look on the internet—there are many erotic tickling movies you can view for inspiration.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Friday Adventure Idea: Just Say “Yes”

Recipe for Just Say “Yes”:

This is a recipe where improvisation is definitely in order! I lay out a set of suggested steps and wording in the instructions below, but feel free to make changes and play different riffs on the overall theme when you enact it. As long as the basic premise remains the same, the result should turn out just fine.

I highly recommend having a safe word in place for this adventure—please establish one before you begin. Though I’ve written as a male Dominant with a female submissive partner, all activities here are non-gender-specific, and this will work just as well even if roles and genders are mixed and matched.

You Will Need:

  • 1 pair wrist cuffs
  • 1 or more snap hooks
  • 1 overhead connection point (or if you don’t have one, a connection point mounted at head-height or higher would be slightly awkward, but workable)
  • 1 set variable tension nipple clamps (i.e. the kind that you can tighten to increase the amount of “pinch”)
  • 1 implement for spanking (any type will work, including bare hands, but more severe is better—I used our switch when Joy and I did this)
  • a vibrator

Instructions:

You will need full access to your partner’s nipples, bottom and genitals for this adventure. Practically speaking, any lingerie options that provide this access will work. However, to go along with the theme of the adventure, I suggest that you might want to try to invoke a feeling of innocence with your partner’s dress. Joy wore her white, lacey, cupless bra and a very short, white crinoline skirt with nothing underneath. She looked almost angelic when we began.

You may dress however you like—I believe I started out wearing a pair of jeans and no shirt. However, this would be a good opportunity for you to break out your dungeon garb if you own any. A chain-and-leather harness would contrast nicely with your partner’s soft, innocent look.

Go ahead and lay out your equipment in full view before your partner joins you. In this case, anticipation is your friend–you’d like her to see what you have waiting for her. As a precaution, note that it is not good to leave nipple clamps on for too extended a duration, so bear that in mind and time the scenario accordingly.

  1. Your partner will need to be nicely pre-heated for this adventure. Don’t skimp on this! Use whatever tricks work best to raise her temperature setting to a toasty “bake”, and keep her there as you have the following conversation with her.
  2. Explain that you want your partner to be a very good girl tonight, and to be a good girl she must obey your instructions. Tell her that, in fact, you expect her to be strictly obedient, so much so that she has lost the ability to use the word “no” during this adventure. No matter what you ask of her, her only answer can be “yes”. Saying “no” is not allowed. When you’ve explained this, confirm that she understands.
  3. When your partner has assented, ask her politely if you may cuff her. Having just had the previous conversation, hopefully she will say “yes”! Place the cuffs around her wrists and then use the snap hook to attach them to the connection point overhead.
  4. In this position, your partner’s breasts are yours to play with. Caress them, tease her nipples up and kiss them. As you do so, ask your partner a series of questions that establish your ownership of her, questions that she can easily answer “yes” to. Examples might include such things as, “Does your body belong to me?” or “May I have this sweet ass whenever I want it?”
  5. After you’ve gotten her to answer “yes” several times, and after her nipples are fully erect from your ministrations, tell her that her nipples look like they badly want to be clamped. Ask her, “Do your nipples want to be clamped, my dear?” Guess what her answer will be!
  6. Attach the clamps to her nipples so that they are tight enough to stay on, but not overly tight. Then move on to play with another portion of your partner’s body, perhaps her bottom, for instance. As you caress her, continue to ask questions she can answer “yes” to. “Do you like it when I touch you here?” Will you do as you are told?”
  7. After several more yesses, remark that the clamps on your partner’s nipples don’t seem tight enough. “Don’t you think they need to be a little tighter, honey?” you should ask.
  8. Probably you will get a reluctant “yes” here. If you get a “no” instead, you’ll need to skip ahead to step 9 to see what to do. For the moment, let’s assume she answered with a positive. Tighten the clamp on her left nipple. Make it good and tight, enough so that she can clearly feel it. Kiss her and hold her. Caress her body. Let her nipple begin to get used to the pain of the clamp. Say, “There, now your nipple has what it wanted. Isn’t that better?” She will likely respond with a weak affirmative. Then whisper, “Oh, but your poor right nipple! It didn’t get what it wants! We should give your right nipple the same treatment we gave your left one, shouldn’t we? Isn’t that the fair thing to do?”
  9. Depending on your partner, you may continue to get yesses for awhile longer, but somewhere in here you’re going to hit a “no”. When you do, you should:
    • Immediately remind your partner that “no” is forbidden to her for this adventure, and that she promised to be a good girl and obey.
    • Take the spanking implement you have selected and deliver four or five firm strokes across her bare bottom. She needs to feel them.
    • Re-confirm with your partner that “yes” is the only answer she has available to her during this adventure.
    • Return to what you were doing before you received the “no” response and repeat the exact question she said “no” to. This time you should get a positive answer.
  10. Tighten the right nipple clamp to match the left one. Then ask, “Shall I get the vibrator, darling?” Use the vibrator to keep your partner simmering on the edge of orgasm as you continue.
  11. By now you should see the pattern here. Continue to ask your partner questions that she can answer “yes” to. “Do you like this?” “Do you want to come?” But every once in awhile ask one that she’d clearly prefer to answer with a “no” instead. Good options include:
    • ”Those clamps still look a little loose. Shall I tighten them just a bit more?”
    • ”You have such a greedy pussy”. Greedy pussies need a little spanking to teach them a lesson. Don’t you think your pussy needs to be taught a lesson, darling?”
    • ”You know, a little weight always helps a nipple clamp to do its job. Shall I hang one of these snap hooks on the chain between your nipple clamps, honey?”
    • ”And now I think a spanking is in order. I was going to give you twenty-five strokes, but now I wonder if fifty would be better. Would you prefer fifty, my dear?”

    You can probably come up with other options if you try. Any “no” response should immediately be punished as described above, and then the question should be re-asked so that your partner can answer “yes”. Continue to use the vibrator, your hands and your mouth to keep your partner’s temperature hot and her excitement level high.

  12. At some point, you (and your partner!) will have had enough. Your last question to her should be something like, “Do you want me to fuck you now, my dear?” When she responds “yes”, detach her cuffs from the overhead connection point and connect them together behind her back instead. Immediately position her however you would like for entry, mount her and ride her until you reach orgasm.
  13. Afterwards, remove the nipple clamps slowly and gently. They will hurt coming off! Hold your partner in your arms and tell her that you are proud of her for being a good girl and obeying you.

Commentary:

To reiterate, you don’t need to stick to the script I’ve laid out above. Feel free to improvise other questions and activities. As long as you are making your partner say “yes” to things they’d rather say “no” to, you’re keeping with the spirit of the adventure.

Note that it’s possible you’ll never get a “no” response at all. If your partner has the willpower to continue to submit for the duration, that’s a good thing. Be proud of her! The adventure will still reinforce her submission even if you never have to punish her.

Other bondage positions could certainly be used for this activity, though access to parts of your partner’s body may be obstructed. It would also be possible to spank other portions of your partner’s body—thighs or breasts, for instance. Regardless of the specific activities you choose, attempt to keep her on the border between pain and excitement, where the two sensations seem to overlap and meld. That’s the sweet spot you’re aiming for.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Friday Adventure Idea: No Way to Win

Recipe for No Way to Win:

A Dominant often demands obedience from their submissive partner. “Do it,” says the Dominant, and the submissive is expected and anxious to comply. Non-compliance is not desirable–sometimes, in fact, it is understood that failure to comply may bring punishment.

But imagine if the Dominant’s demand was difficult to the point of unreasonableness. How would that feel? And further, imagine that the Dominant expected to be obeyed anyway, and that the submissive had a strong expectation of punishment for failure. Can you put yourself in the poor submissive’s shoes and empathize with their growing panic as they begin to realize that they cannot comply, but that impossibility is not an excuse?

This is the premise behind today’s adventure. Be careful, however! The tone of this scenario must be light in heart—you almost need to employ a sense of humor when enacting it. Your submissive partner should recognize that you are playing with them, and that you fully understand that you’ve placed them in a no-win situation. If you insist on a deadly serious approach, you will likely get anger, frustration and tears as a result rather than the sexual submission you are looking for.

There are many other ways to implement this concept than the one I describe below. I chose this particular approach for Joy and I due to the large number of dildos we have in our collection and the way it dovetails with our long-standing requirement that Joy use her mouth to “clean” my penis after intercourse. If you don’t have a sufficient number of dildos available to follow along with the idea below, you can certainly come up with your own unreasonable task. Just remember that making it a bit demeaning as well as difficult will help ramp up the feeling of submission for your partner.

As usual, this adventure is written from the perspective of a male Dominant with a female submissive partner. However, roles and genders can be mixed and matched as desired without impact.

You Will Need:

  • 1 set of wrist cuffs
  • 1 collar with o-ring
  • 1 snap hook
  • 1 pair of nipple clamps (optional)
  • an assortment of dildos or vibrators, preferably realistic in appearance
  • 1 spanking implement, and it is best if it’s the one that your partner finds most intimidating (for us, this is our riding crop, which Joy swears has invisible teeth in the striking end)
  • a wristwatch with a second hand or some other way to measure time

Instructions:

You want your partner to feel vulnerable for this adventure, and the way they dress should support that feeling. One option would be to ensure they wear nothing at all—nakedness certainly can induce a feeling of vulnerability. Another option would be to break out the cupless or peek-a-boo bra and permit them to wear nothing else, and finally, a babydoll nightgown with nothing underneath would work as well. I chose to be fully clothed for this adventure to emphasize the difference between Joy’s role and my own, but you may dress as you like.

I said it above, but let me repeat. Keep the tone of this scenario light! Your partner should discover relatively quickly that you have set them an unreasonable task, and grasp soon after that you are fully aware that it is not reasonable. They should see the inevitability of their “punishment” and realize that even though they are bound to fail, you expect them to try their best anyway and then submit to the spanking that they “earn” through their failure. If you start to see frustration set in, take steps to lighten the tone with what you say or how you act to help them understand the spirit of the adventure.

  1. Lay out the selection of dildos and vibrators in the room where you stage the adventure. They can just be lying on a table or on a bed, but be sure not to stand them up on end or it may actually become possible for your partner to complete the task you are about to set them. If you want to raise the submissiveness of the adventure a tad, you could even lay them out on the floor. Joy and I have easily a dozen different vibrators and dildos, and that’s plenty. You could probably get away with as few as six if that’s all you have. Ensure that your spanking implement of choice is also somewhere handy so that you can pick it up easily when it becomes necessary.
  2. Bring your partner in and instruct her to don her cuffs and collar. Caress her, hold her and kiss her to raise her excitement level as she puts them on. Ensure that the o-ring of the collar is positioned at the back of her neck.
  3. Raise your partner’s hands up behind her neck and use the snap hook to connect both wrists to the o-ring of the collar. This will place your partner in an overarm tie, and greatly restrict her ability to use her hands and arms. In addition, it will nicely expose her breasts and underarms—take the opportunity to enjoy them thoroughly.
  4. When you are ready, tell your partner that you have something she needs to do for you. Explain to her that the dildos you have laid out need a good cleaning, and you expect her to take care of it.
  5. Your partner will likely be puzzled and not know what to do. Add a bit of pressure by telling her that you have other plans after she’s done, and she should hurry and get started.
  6. When your partner points out that she can’t clean them because her hands are bound, respond by telling her that her mouth is free, isn’t it? She knows how to clean a cock with her mouth, doesn’t she? Repeat again that she needs to get started—you want her to hurry and finish.
  7. Hopefully your partner will now begin to attempt the task you have set her, but chances are good that some level of resistance will begin to build inside her. Joy gave me “the look” when I gave her that instruction, and I took the opportunity to wink at her. Remember my suggestion about keeping the tone light?
  8. Because her hands are bound behind her head, your partner will be unable to use them to assist her in the task you have set her. She will instead have to bend over and use her lips and mouth to reposition the dildos so that she can “clean” them. This will be both difficult and rather demeaning. If she tries to get away with simply licking them, hold her waist and give her several serious smacks on the bottom with your hand. Warn her that you expect her to do a good job! And tell her again to be quick about it because you have plans for her body and you don’t like to wait! Don’t accept anything less than a full-on and fairly thorough blow job of the dildo before she can call it “clean”. Feel free to impose other requirements, such as licking the base of the shaft and the balls (if the dildo comes equipped with balls).
  9. When she succeeds in completing one dildo, tell her that it took far too long, and that she must be much quicker about the rest. Set a time limit of one minute for the next one, and use the watch to time your partner’s efforts. Tell her that if she doesn’t succeed within that time limit, you’ll be forced to punish her. But…remember to keep the mood light. Be playful rather than severe and stern when you talk about punishment.
  10. If your partner somehow succeeds with the one minute time limit, either up the ante by adding to the requirements to clean the next dildo, or reduce the allotted time. Your goal is to ensure that she fail.
  11. When your partner fails with her efforts, bend her over your knee and give her bottom a sound paddling with your hand. Then tell her she has “X” minutes to finish cleaning all the other dildos (where you pick “X” to be long enough to give her time for a good try, but not long enough to succeed). Tell her that you are out of patience, and if she fails again, you will show her what a real spanking feels like. Pick up the spanking implement you have chosen so that she can see that you intend to use it, and warn her that you will be watching to make sure she does a thorough job. Then begin timing. Feel free to tap your foot impatiently if you like.
  12. Ideally your partner will do her level best to complete her task, knowing all the while that she is doomed to fail. It’s possible, however, that she will give up. If she does, incentivize her using the nipple clamps (“These will not come off until you are through!”) or by stopping the clock and using the spanking implement to administer some interim motivation, then requiring her to start the cleaning process over.
  13. When time runs out and the task has not been finished, pretend to be sad about what you are about to do. “This is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you,” might be a good line to use. Then apply the spanking implement firmly to her behind until you feel you have spanked her long enough.
  14. When you are done, you may either instruct her to “clean” you with her mouth, or you may spread her legs and ride her until you reach your climax. Do not worry about her pleasure—this is not an adventure that focuses on her physical enjoyment. Rather, maximize her sense of submission and her feeling of being your toy to play with, and you will feed her mental enjoyment instead.
  15. Afterwards during cuddle time (and she will have earned some solid cuddling!), feel free to discuss what you did. If she wants to know why you set her an impossible task and punished her when she failed, tell her it’s because you wanted to remind her that she is a submissive, and that thinking about a task or worrying whether or not she can accomplish it is not listed in the submissive job description. Instead, her job is to submit, and you may choose to reward or punish her for her actions however you choose. Tell her she did well, even if she didn’t actually clean all the dildos, and that you are proud of her submission.

Commentary:

As mentioned above, there are many ways to set impossible tasks. Feel free to improvise. This adventure requires a fairly deft touch, and may be difficult for beginners! If you’re worried about how your partner will react to it and want to lighten things up a bit, consider replacing each instance of “punishment” with tickling instead. With your partner’s arms bound behind her neck, she won’t be able to defend her ticklish spots, and therefore will be at your mercy.

If you don’t have a collar, you could also forego the overarm tie and simply cuff your partner’s hands behind her back. This won’t be as artistic, but it should be just as effective.

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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