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Joy’s Favorite Spanking Tool

My own personal favorite tool for spanking my wife’s bottom is my bare hand. There’s a particularly satisfying “thwack” when it comes down on Joy’s behind, and I love the feeling of her soft skin under my palm and the way she jumps when I land just right. Plus, when I have her over my lap and the quarters are close, other implements tend to be cramped or crowded. My hand works best when we are up close and personal.

However, Joy feels differently, I believe. After a considerable amount of experimentation, I believe she has settled on the flogger we purchased from Conina as her absolute favorite implement for spanking. As she reported out a few weeks ago, it was the item she chose when I required her to pick a tool to be spanked with. After a couple late-night discussions on the topic, I believe I understand why she likes it so well.

The flogger is a gentle tool. I know that its name doesn’t sound gentle–the word “flogging” conjures up images of medieval punishments. However, a BDSM flogger is not the cat o’ nine tails you may fear. Instead, its “falls” (the strands that hang from the handle) have little individual bite to them when they connect–they don’t weigh enough for that. Instead of biting, they slowly build up a heat in Joy’s bottom that eventually turns to a burn. And because it’s a gradual escalation, it allows her to slowly relax into the spanking, sinking down into it bit by bit. Other tools, including my hand, are a tad more abrupt.

Now, I can certainly appreciate the benefits of the flogger, and due to its gradual approach, I have begun to use it frequently as a warm up tool. Once Joy has reached the proper frame of wind under the flogger’s tender ministrations, I then move on to other instruments…my hand, or a paddle, or the Viper’s Tongue. Because she’s already been properly pre-heated, Joy’s bottom can accept their somewhat rougher attentions more readily. And that way we’re both happy.

But I have lately discovered an additional use for the flogger that is catapulting it into a primary position in our spanking arsenal. Joy has historically been very reluctant to be spanked anywhere other than on her bottom. Oh, true, I have forced the issue upon occasion and required her to spread her legs to allow me to spank her vulva. That has been only a rare occurrence, though, and spanking other targets–notably her breasts–was something she’s always been very afraid of.

The soft and gentle approach of the flogger has, however, allowed me to begin a slow exploration of Joy’s body, allowing its tendrils to trace a path beyond Joy’s rear end and over her thighs, up her back, under her arm and around around to her breasts. It is quite the exhilarating experience to watch Joy’s nipples grow fiercely erect under the flogger’s fingers as she stands beneath the hook in our playroom ceiling, her hands bound high over her head to fully expose her body. We remain in the very beginning stages of our exploration, but this direction definitely promises excitement for both of us as we move forward. So, the flogger is rising in the hierarchy of our spanking tools. Whereas I once thought it was too soft and low-intensity, I’ve developed a new appreciation for its talents.

Lucky flogger…it gets to kiss Joy all over her body…

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Triumph

Guest post by Joy

Well, I did it: I decided what instrument I wanted Jake to spank me with. And I even asked for him to use it! Well, I didn’t actually ask for it. I just left a hand-written note on the bed in the playroom which simply said “The flogger. Start gently please.” Jake found the note when he was making his preparations for the evening. I never really said anything.

I guess you might call it a ‘break through’ of sorts. I think Jake does. Really, it just started off as an emphasis on the “start gently” part. After being spanked with a paddle one night and then a slapper the next (I think it was a slapper – it all happened behind me so it was hard to see what it was for sure) along with Jake’s open hand, I really wanted something else. Something milder. Arnica gel only helps so much the next day! I even broke down and took an ibuprofen yesterday. But even though my bottom hurt, I never considered not pressing onward in this journey towards bedroom submission.

I chose the flogger because it really can start out gently. The burn does not really set in until you’re pretty much committed to the session, and I had hopes that by then I would have reached an altered state of mind. Jake was mindful of my note and started off gently, soothing me with his voice as he flicked my behind. It wasn’t long before he struck harder and faster, but I was able to manage myself … mostly. I only put my hand back in the way once or twice. Jake moved it away and continued. By the time my bottom felt like it was on fire and Jake switched to using his hands, I could feel myself slipping under, my body letting go. And it wound up being really good.

Renee Rose left a comment on one of Jake’s posts just a few days ago, and I dwelt on her words:

“I absolutely understand Joy’s reluctance/shame to admit she loves to be dominated. I used to be in terrible conflict over it, as a feminist and just a self-respecting human being. Understanding that it is a *sexual* desire vs. a personality tick was important. As I continue to embrace it, I ironically find myself more and more empowered.”

This revelation really clicked for me: this whole foray into submission isn’t who I am … it is merely what I like, or want, to do.

After four straight nights of hard spanking, there is some unavoidable bruising. The tube of arnica gel is about half-way gone. There won’t be much sitting around done today. However, this will get easier. My bottom is just out of practice, and Jake is having to try so hard lately because I am fighting it so much. As much as I hate the term “broken in”, sometimes it is the only term that applies. I am choosing to push forward with this process and if it hurts now (which it does), it will pay off in the long run.

Once I send these words to Jake for approval, I think I might find my way upstairs to leave a little note on the bed again. Maybe.

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BDSM Product Review: Beautiful Sensations Embers Flogger

Slowly but surely Joy and I are working our way through the plethora of fun new items that St. Nick brought us over the holidays. And slowly but surely I’m working on reviews of the products. At the rate of 1 per week that I’m currently traveling, I ought to be caught up by about Halloween!

Today’s review is of the Beautiful Sensations Embers Flogger, our new favorite “good girl spanking” tool. For those who are not aware, Beautiful Sensations is owned and operated by the illustrious blogger Conina, and each of the floggers she sells is handmade by her. We purchased a lovely red-and-black model, and after having test driven it a few times now, it far surpasses the previous commercially-made product we owned previously.

For more detail and to see a picture (the flogger is gorgeous), please take a look at the full review. And in the meantime, I’m going to go open up the toy chest to see what it may have in store for Joy tonight…

Enjoy Yourself,

Jake

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