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Product Review – Spiked Breast Binder with Nipple Hole

Thought I’d post a review of a piece of BDSM equipment that Joy and I have owned for several years. It’s out of character for Joy, as it is spiky and sharp, and Joy normally has serious issues with anything that might conceivably draw blood. However, she saw it online a few years back and sent me a link, and occasionally even I can catch a hint. I purchased it, and we’ve used it with a mixture of trepidation and excitement many times since.

It’s a breast binder, and it has a set of sharp tacks set inside it, so that the points press into Joy’s tender bosoms when I put it on her. From my point of view, however, the best feature is that it has holes to let her nipples poke through, so that I can play with them while she wears it!

If you (or your partner) might have interest, take a look at the full review for more information. Meanwhile, hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving!

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Shopping Even a Husband Can Enjoy

The holidays are, of course, prime shopping season. Personally, I’m a typical guy–shopping really isn’t my thing. If I need an item, I’ll head to the store or mall or wherever, I’ll buy it, and then I’ll head home. The idea of “browsing” from store-to-store on the off chance that I’ll find something I like, or of visiting multiple places to check out various purchase options sounds more like torture than fun. When Joy wants me to go out shopping with her for some reason, I generally humor her, but it’s not something I look forward to.

There is one kind of shopping trip, however, that I have discovered I enjoy very much, and I highly recommend it for any husband out there! Despite your instincts, trust me when I tell you that you will enjoy it as well, and I suggest that you book a trip to the mall right away. Believe it or not, I’m recommending that you go right into the den of the lion and shop for clothing with your wife…and not clothing for you, but clothing for her. Normally that would be the worst kind of madness, but in this case, it’s not dresses or pants that you’ll be shopping for. This time you’ll be shopping for underwear.

I have a bit of an advantage because our arrangement gives me the right to select Joy’s undergarments. We actually went through her pantie drawer awhile back and reviewed each pair, and I tossed all the ones that didn’t meet my approval. However, underwear shopping with Joy would be fun even without this feature, and I think it will be with your wife as well provided that she is open to allowing you to provide feedback on her potential purchases.

Specifically, you need to shop for bras with your wife. Oh, you may as well pick up some panties as well–that’s fun in its own way–but the thing is, women aren’t supposed to try on panties before they buy them. It is absolutely expected, on the other hand, that a woman try on a bra before purchasing it. Not doing so would be stupid, as bras need to fit intimately, and each woman has her own unique form.

And here’s where the fun comes in. Provided that a certain amount of discretion is used, Joy and I have found that most department stores will permit me to go into the dressing room with her to assist and provide feedback as she tries the bras on.

Now you can see why both Joy and I like this kind of shopping, and why I expect you would as well. Imagine having your wife in a semi-public place stripping off her top and trying on various and sundry brassiers, each of which you have selected because you thought she would look sexy in it. You viewing satisfaction is guaranteed! A certain amount of touching and caressing is bound to happen, and if the odd nipple finds its way into a mouth once in awhile, well, what’s the harm? Frankly, there is ample opportunity for more action than that, but do me a favor–remember the need for discretion or the stores will institute some kind of females-only policy and you’ll ruin the fun for the rest of us.

It’s good for the stores to permit this sort of thing as well. Joy and I walked out that day with at least four bras and a dozen pairs of panties, far more than Joy would have purchased on her own. The store was happy because it made a sale, I was happy because I was all hot and bothered and could hardly wait to see Joy in her new underclothes when we got home, and Joy was happy because she was all hot and bothered and anxious to wear her pretty new unmentionables, both for me in a fashion show when we got home, and later, out to work or to the grocery. It makes Joy feel pretty to have something sexy on under her everyday clothing, and we picked up some exquisite additions she could to add to her top drawer.

Underwear shopping is now something we do together every six months or so, and we both look forward to it. Oh, sometimes we wind up frustrated if we get some overzealous clerk at the store who feels that it’s not permissible to allow a man into his wife’s dressing room, but that’s easily solved–we just go to another store. My advice is to focus on the larger stores–Macy’s, for instance, or Neiman Marcus–and it’s best to go when it is not overly crowded. Boutiques tend to be more difficult, as the dressing rooms are smaller and the clerks feel they have less discretion about allowing a man to enter the fitting rooms.

So next time your wife asks you if you want to go shopping, don’t make up some excuse. Instead, tell her, “Sure! But I get to pick what we shop for!” And then, spend a nice afternoon together at the mall. Trust me–you’ll have fun!

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Magic Boots

As you might have guessed based on the name of this blog, I love leather. This is true for leather cuffs, certainly, but it’s also true for other things. I have bought many leather articles for Joy, including panties, various bras, belts, a paddle, a flogger…all kinds of leather items see use in our playroom. Frankly, leather = sexy to me in many, many cases.

Leather boots are no exception.

I’m not sure just what the magic is that they possess. It has something to do with how they look, I think, though certainly the feel and the scent of leather can be enticing as well. But when I see a woman wearing leather boots and a skirt…well, the effect is exhilarating. Joy has several pairs, ranging from dressy to casual to downright slutty with a not-so-subtle BDSM flair. She doesn’t wear that last pair out in public, but they have made several appearances behind closed doors.

A pair of slender legs protruding from a short skirt and clad in knee-high leather just cry out to me to be spread. Those boot heels beg to be pointed up to the ceiling or used as handles to part the thighs of their owner. There are few sights more alluring than Joy, wearing her denim skirt and her brown, leather boots reclining on the bed, the hem of the skirt riding just high enough to make me wonder whether she neglected to wear her knickers today.

Boots also work well when their owner wears no other clothing at all (see picture for an example). The dramatic contrast between supple leather and bare skin somehow makes the accompanying nakedness more egregious. Joy wearing nothing but boots makes for outstanding viewing, and I frequently arrange for her to wear exactly this costume.

Speaking practically, boots also offer the capability to bind the ankles more tightly while worrying less about the comfort of the wearer. They protect their owner’s delicate skin from abrasion by rope or metal cuffs (though the boots themselves may suffer a bit) and therefore allow for a wider variety of ankle restraints. A cuffed set of booted ankles spread wide by ropes or chains makes a pretty sight indeed.

Okay, let’s be honest. I can’t explain their magic—not really. I just think women in leather boots are very sexy. If you don’t already have a pair in your BDSM wardrobe, I highly recommend you go boot-shopping. As an added bonus, you can even wear them around town or to work! It’s like a two-for-one special, and nobody will be the wiser about the real reason you bought them!

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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Male Lingerie?

I had a brief comment discussion with t1klish a few weeks ago on the topic of men’s clothing. Well, “clothing” probably isn’t the right word, but the fact that there’s no better one serves to highlight the issue we discussed. t1klish was pointing out that when it comes ogling their wives or girlfriends in slinky lingerie, men have it great! There are stores and catalogues and online retailers all devoted to providing good ogling attire, and the menu of lingerie options is vast and varied. But when the tables are turned, and a woman wants her husband or boyfriend to dress in something provocative…well, what is there? There’s no “Victor’s Secret” at the local mall. As I mentioned, there doesn’t even seem to be a male counterpart for the word “lingerie” to describe men’s risqué clothing.

As t1klish pointed out, this is not fair. This might be an untouched market just waiting for someone to come out with a product line to fill it! But you know what? If I try to imagine what that product line might look like, well…I have a hard time. I’m afraid I don’t really know what sort of male “lingerie” women might find hot.

When I consider that question, I think back to a female friend who once confided in me that a pair of jeans and nothing else was the outfit she found hottest on a male wearer. There’s one data point. And I add in that Joy tells me I have a pair of black boxer-briefs that she thinks I look particularly good in. That’s another piece of input. Oh, and there are the chainsaw chaps that I wear to protect myself when cutting wood—I know she likes these, though they are a bit “Village People” to wear in the bedroom for my taste. Beyond that, I’m afraid I have little to go on.

Of course, there is also the traditional BDSM-wear for men—chains and leather, harnesses, collars with studs or spikes. My impression is that these types of costumes tend to target the homosexual crowd and therefore appeal more to men than women, but I could be wrong. I know women are reputedly “less visual” than men when it comes to eroticism. Is it possible that women don’t find much appeal to men dressed in underwear, sleepwear or other skimpy clothing? t1klish indicates otherwise, but perhaps most women don’t feel the same way?

I thought I would ask female readers. Think about bedroom clothing—the stuff you’d like to see a man wear behind closed doors when you are already in your slinky nightgown. That means that a nice suit and tie, however sexy –looking, doesn’t count. What type of male “lingerie” do female readers find most attractive on men?

I’ve listed some options below, but feel free to think outside the box I have drawn and come up with your own suggestion:

  • Boxer shorts?
  • Briefs?
  • Some sort of novelty briefs (such as the kind that has an elephant’s face on the front, and you-know-what fits inside the trunk)?
  • BDSM-wear?
  • Some sort of costume (e.g. a construction vest and hard hat)?
  • Elegant flannel pajamas?
  • Something else?

If you have some thoughts on this topic, please share them via comment. Please don’t be shy—I’m curious to hear your thoughts! And bear in mind that you’ll be doing a service for all mankind! Armed with this information, we men can do a better job of making ourselves visually-appealing in the boudoir. And we all benefit from that, don’t we?

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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The Trouble with Latex

Around about this past Christmas, I developed a bit of an interest in latex…particularly latex clothing. I’m not sure where the interest comes from exactly—it’s got something to do with the way latex clings so close to the human body, molding itself like a second skin, and the thought that it wraps close around the body of the wearer, enclosing them tightly in its elastic grasp. I hadn’t had much inclination prior to this, but on a flyer, I bought a pair of black, latex panties for Joy.

Now, Joy has a lovely ass, and I had great confidence that her behind would look quite scrumptious covered in smooth, black latex. But being Jake, I wasn’t satisfied with settling solely for the decorative aspect of things. Therefore, the panties I bought came with a built-in, internal vibrating dildo. My thought was that I’d put Joy in those panties with the dildo fully inserted, bind her hands at her neck or overhead, and then power up the vibrator. The tight-fitting panties would keep it in place, and Joy would be unable to free herself from their confinement. This seemed like a recipe for all kinds of fun for both of us!

And, in fact, it worked…at least somewhat. Joy did enjoy the feeling of being full, all tingly from the vibrations, and tightly encased. Her butt looked smashing in the panties. And more than that, the thin latex covering and close fit allowed me to apply a second vibrator to her vulva from the outside, enabling extra stimulation. It was a fun evening, but all in all, I have to say that I found latex’s downsides discouraging, and because of that, we haven’t employed these panties since. Here are the issues I encountered:

  • Latex has an unpleasant, chemical odor (and taste, by the way). Even after cleaning the smell lingers, and it can be transmitted to the body wearing it. It’s not incredibly strong, and my nose isn’t particularly sensitive, but it’s noticeable and a bit off-putting.
  • When you see latex clothing in an online ad or on a model, it’s nice and bright and shiny. However, in reality, one must spent time maintaining it to keep it that way. There’s such a thing as latex polish, and without it being applied, the material looks dusty and dull, losing that bright, attractive shine. Take a look at the picture I added to this post to see what I mean, and note that it’s hard to see the dustiness in the small image, so it’s actually worse than it looks.
  • Though the latex is thin and clings tightly to Joy’s bottom, it nevertheless interferes with spanking. Afterwards, Joy told me that she could hardly feel the paddle coming down across her buttocks. She did not have this same problem with feeling the external vibrator, however, likely because it doesn’t rely on sudden impact which the latex can diffuse.
  • Because it stretches and clings so tightly, latex can be difficult to put on. The panties have to fit tightly to avoid wrinkles and bagging, so it requires some effort to work them over the thighs and hips and snug them into place.
  • Latex clothing is also relatively expensive. A pair of panties won’t break the bank, but going beyond that gets pretty pricey, pretty quick.

Honestly, the biggest issue is probably the smell. If it weren’t for that, I could probably work around the other things, but I don’t know what can be done about the odor. If somebody out there were to invent a non-aromatic latex, I think I could become a convert. As it is…well, latex still has its theoretical appeal, and it can look quite erotic in pictures, but I’m afraid I’ll leave it alone in real life.

Of course, my experience with latex is limited. All you latex aficionados feel free to share tips or alternatives, and I’ll certainly be willing to consider them!

Enjoy yourself,

Jake

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