Leather Cuffs and Silken Bonds http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com BDSM Adventures for Real People Thu, 23 Nov 2017 13:09:11 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.4 Happy Thanksgiving http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2017/11/23/happy-thanksgiving-2/ http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2017/11/23/happy-thanksgiving-2/#comments Thu, 23 Nov 2017 13:09:11 +0000 http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/?p=6261 Just a quick post to wish all a happy Thanksgiving holiday. Traditionally, of course, one should think about all the things one is thankful for today. I am thankful for my wonderful, patient and exceptionally sexy wife, who gave me a special treat this morning to welcome in the holiday. Hope all of you have something nice to be thankful for as well!

Enjoy yourself, and the holiday,


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Car Wash Challenge http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2017/03/18/car-wash-challenge/ http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2017/03/18/car-wash-challenge/#comments Sat, 18 Mar 2017 19:20:01 +0000 http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/?p=6230 Here it is mid-March, and the nice weather is making me think of spring rituals. You know, things like planting flowers, grilling out on the deck, and of course, getting the car washed. After a long winter full of mud and salted roads, a good car wash is essential to welcome in the warmer weather, right?

There’s a car wash that I sometimes go to down the road. It’s one of those fully-automated, mechanical ones that some gas stations have put in. You fill up the tank, and as you finish, the pump asks you if you want to wash your car. If you answer yes, it bills your card for the wash plus the gas, and then gives you a secret code. You pull up to the entrance to the wash building around back, enter the code on a keypad, and the entry gate opens and you can drive in. The water sprays turn on, the brushes and buffers spin up, and washing begins. A couple minutes later you drive back out again with a clean(er) car.

“Why am I reading about car washes?” you may be asking yourself. “Spring or no, I kinda thought Jake usually wrote about a different kind of subject matter.”

But see, here’s the thing. While you’re in the wash, sitting in your car surrounded by spraying water and spinning brushes, it’s actually kind of a private environment. Oh, only semi-private; the world goes on all around you, but for a couple, brief moments, while the wash is in operation, there is peace and a feeling of being cut off from the external world, isolated behind your car doors. It’s only for a couple minutes, mind you. After that, the wash ends, the splashing water shuts down, the entryway lights up, and anyone behind you waiting to get in begins honking their horn if you don’t move.

And that, of course, brings me to the challenge…the Car Wash Challenge.

Assuming that you have a car wash such as I described above within driving range, you can present your partner with the challenge, if you’re so inclined. Here are the rules–they are pretty simple:

  1. The challenge begins once the car wash has been activated by entering the key code…starting earlier is cheating.
  2. The passenger must bring the driver to orgasm. You can set any rules about how they’re allowed to do this that you want—for Joy and I for instance, the rule was that she was not allowed to use her hands.
  3. The driver shall not move his car out of the car wash until the passenger has made them come. This applies whether or not there is anyone else waiting in line, even if they honk their horn.

As I said, the rules are pretty simple, but you can see the fun to be had here. The atmosphere is private enough to make the challenge practical, but at the same time, public enough to add a thrill. There’s a built-in time limit, and should time expire, the challenge becomes more onerous because others might begin to pay attention to what is happening.

Joy likes to be challenged. She takes pride in overcoming whatever challenge life, or her husband, hands her. And she rose to the occasion of this particular challenge quite admirably. Oh, I didn’t make it too difficult for her. You know, we men have at least a little control over how easily we come, and I did what I could to help the process along quickly for her sake, but to be honest, her mouth is so warm and skillful anyway, she didn’t have much trouble. She finished me off only a few seconds after the exit light lit up, and after a moment of recovery, we drove off, with Joy wearing a smug smile (among other things) on her face, and the guy waiting in line behind us in his Audi none the wiser.

Do you think your partner (or you, yourself) can do as well? It’s up to you how much notice you give them about what you have planned. Joy is expected to always be ready and available, so I didn’t say anything until I had the code in hand and was about to enter it onto the keypad. Think you can handle the car wash challenge? There’s only one way to find out. Feel free to share your adventure via comment below if you’d like! Happy spring, and as always…

Enjoy yourself,


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Another Review… http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2016/07/13/another-review/ http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2016/07/13/another-review/#respond Thu, 14 Jul 2016 00:15:24 +0000 http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/?p=6205 …of my book, Exploring Dark Dreams: A Beginner’s Practical Guide to BDSM. Hopefully one day I’ll get enough of these that I won’t feel compelled to share them word for word on this blog, but for now, this is still new enough that I’m going to do so.

5.0 out of 5 stars

This was just the book I needed. It provided explanations and information in an easy to understand and relatable fashion. I had been trying to find information regarding this subject that is relevant to when you are already in a relationship or married. Unfortunately there is not much available out there. Most books focus on beginning an altogether new relationship or arrangement. This book fills that void in the literature. I also really enjoyed the input included from the wife’s perspective. If you are looking for information on BDSM and are already in a relationship or married this is the book for you. But even if you are new to the scene and curious and not in a relationship or married you can still gain valuable knowledge. The author presents the topics and information using actual examples and scenarios which I find is not always the case in other books about the subject. You won’t be sorry if you buy this book.

Thanks very much to whoever posted this review on Amazon, both for the kind words and for purchasing the book in the first place! I hope that it proves useful in your relationship!

Enjoy yourself,


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Friday Adventure Recipe – Showing Strength http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2016/06/24/friday-adventure-recipe-showing-strength/ http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2016/06/24/friday-adventure-recipe-showing-strength/#comments Sat, 25 Jun 2016 00:19:30 +0000 http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/?p=6189 Recipe for Showing Strength

Today’s adventure recipe is a simple one, requiring little equipment. However, it has the considerable advantage of showing off your physical strength to your partner very directly, by pitting it against their own. Of course, we stack the deck by virtue of the position they are in to help ensure your strength exceeds theirs, even if you’re not necessarily stronger in real life. For the submissive partner, there’s something magical about being Dominated by someone who is physically stronger, and this adventure is designed to leverage that magic.

In addition, it provides maximal skin-to-skin contact. Unlike more complex adventures, with ropes and cuffs and floggers, you and your partner will remain close, skin-to-skin, for the duration. For that reason, in a way, this is a more intimate adventure than many others.

As usual, I write from the point of view of a male Dominant with a female submissive partner, but you could easily adjust this exercise to fit other relationship configurations if required. A female Domme with a male submissive, for instance, is quite feasible–just use your imagination.

You Will Need:

  • One vibrator
  • An old necktie
  • A comfortable chair with a back…a recliner, for instance, will do nicely


Both you and your partner should start this adventure naked. Remember, I said we’d maximize skin-on-skin? If you prefer to have your partner strip off her clothes in front of you, that’s fine, but you want her bare before you begin in earnest. No need to conceal the equipment–there is so little of it, and it seems so innocuous, that keeping it out of sight serves no purpose.

  1. To begin, tie one end of the tie around your partner’s right wrist, and the other end of the tie around their left wrist. Make no attempt to tie the wrists close together–you’re going to want the slack.
  2. Place the vibrator near at hand where you can reach it from a sitting position, and then sit down in the chair with your legs spread apart. Have your partner sit down in front of you between your spread legs, so that her back is against your chest. When this step is complete, you should both be sitting facing the same direction, close up against each other, like you were riding in the same log on the Flume ride at an amusement park.
  3. Pull your partner’s hands up and back over her head, and pull the tie back over both your heads. Lean forward so that the slack of the tie comes down behind your back, then lean back to trap it in place. Lift your hands over the tie, so that it is secure behind your back and under your arms. When you are done, your partner’s hands should be bound behind her head where they can’t get in the way of the fun you’re both about to have.
  4. Lift your legs up over your partner’s and hook your ankles behind hers. Then use the strength of your legs to spread hers apart…and keep them apart.
  5. Now, use your hands and the vibrator to tease, caress and stimulate your partner however you see fit. Both her breasts and her genitals are fully available. With her hands bound out of the way and your legs locking hers apart, she cannot prevent you from doing whatever you want to drive her wild. My recommendation would be to begin slowly and build up the pleasure over time…perhaps starting with breasts and nipples, moving to her genitals when she’s already warmed up, and placing the vibrator where it will do the most good as she becomes fully overheated. Bear in mind that her ears and the sides of her neck are also available for your lips and tongue if those are erogenous zones for her.
  6. Keep going until she can’t stand it and starts to resist. With Joy, this happens before she actually reaches orgasm…I generally have to fight Joy to make her come (I’ve never really understood why…she likes to come…but that’s the ways she seems to work). It may not be the same with your partner, but you’ll know when the resistance starts because she’ll try to close her legs to get away from the vibrator (which by this point is firmly placed against her swollen clitoris). Use the power of your own legs to keep your partner’s legs spread wide. If you’re having trouble, try pushing your legs down as well as apart–the friction of your feet against the chair will help you maintain control. If necessary, brace your legs against the outside edg1es of the chair to keep them separated. Keep going with the vibrator and other stimulation until you have clearly demonstrated that you are stronger that your partner and you decide that it is time to stop. Hopefully this will be well beyond the point of orgasm(s) for your partner!
  7. After you have stopped, wrap your partner in your arms and hold her close. Kiss her neck and caress her…let her know what a good girl she has been.


A fun and easy add-on to this scenario is to perform it in front of the TV or a computer with “interesting” programming running where you and your partner can see it while you play. I sometimes do this with Joy when planting a seed for a future, new activity…one she’s never tried before…and choose the programming to reflect the seed I’m trying to plant. The adventure puts her in the right frame of mind to be open to new things…if you know what I mean.

One word of caution–be aware of your partner’s head! It will be placed quite close to your own, and if she tosses it around in the throes of passion, a painful impact could occur! I try to lean forward and position my head beside and slightly in front of Joy’s when we get close to the end of this adventure.

Enjoy yourself,


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Nipple Stimulation http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2016/06/03/nipple-stimulation/ http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/2016/06/03/nipple-stimulation/#comments Fri, 03 Jun 2016 20:30:27 +0000 http://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/?p=6175 Joy has wonderful breasts. If you look at the image that accompanies this post, you can see what I mean. Her breasts are aggressively feminine! Joy’s nipples assert themselves. When excited, they pop out like cherries atop the twin scoops of vanilla that fill her bra. And they are highly sensitive as well. To date, I’ve never actually brought Joy to orgasm solely via nipple stimulation, but there are few things that help her on the way to the big “O” better than having her breasts played with.

So, everybody knows how to play with nipples, right? You can stroke them, caress them, circle the aureole gently with your finger or your tongue, kiss them or suck them. You can tickle them with a feather or bring them fully erect through the judicious application of a piece of ice. Joy tends to like some of the rougher techniques, so we often add pinching between the thumb and a finger, tugging upward until she has to come to her toes to ease the pressure, twisting, and (her favorite), trapping her nipple against the back of my front teeth, pressing hard against it with my tongue, and rolling it between tongue and teeth. And there are many, many other techniques I haven’t listed…way too many for me to try to note in this post.

However, I thought I’d talk about one technique that, used properly, can drive Joy crazy, to the point where she gasps and whimpers, writhes on the bed and tosses her head back and forth. And it’s something that not everyone may have thought of or tried. If you haven’t tried it, it might be fun to grab your partner and give it a go tonight–it ought to ensure they are quite steamy and ready for any other activity you have planned for follow up.

To start, I always like to bind Joy’s hands out of the way. It’s not really important how I do so, as long as they unable to reach her breasts and therefore cannot interfere with the stimulation I’m about to provide. Note that this step is not essential–you can certainly proceed while leaving your partner’s hands free–but in my opinion, it greatly adds to the experience if they are unable to stop the stimulation. That’s where the writhing and head-tossing comes in.

Once Joy’s hands are safely out of the way, I then proceed with warm up exercises–I use my hands and mouth to play with Joy’s nipples in many of the ways I listed above, The goal here is to get her good and excited and her nipples standing up high and proud before we begin in earnest. Once she’s flushed and breathing hard, and she’s nice and wet between her legs, it’s time to move forward. (If you’re playing along at home and you’re not sure if you’re partner’s wet, use your finger to go ahead and check! Her hands are bound–it’s not like she’s going to stop you.)

Next, I break out our two most powerful vibrators. For us, this would be our two Magic Wands. If you do not have magic wands, use the strongest vibrators you do have. And if you only have one vibrator…well, go buy another one! They’re not that expensive, and having two vibrators can come in handy in many, many situations. This is one of them!

I then apply the vibrators to Joy’s erect, excited nipples. She squirms and wiggles her body to try to get away as they overload her pleasure circuits, but of course, I make sure she cannot escape. Note for those playing at home–it is not necessarily most effective to press the vibrators down hard on your partner’s nipples. Often, the greatest sensation comes when you lightly apply the vibrator…but this, of course, makes it more difficult to keep them in place as your partner bucks and writhes beneath your touch. Naturally, the struggle is part of what makes it fun!

Four or five minutes of this, and Joy is ready to be taken in any way I choose to take her. During the course of those four or five minutes, it’s often fun to replace one of the vibrators at her nipple with my mouth, and apply the newly-freed-up vibe to her clitoris. Two hands plus a mouth means you can provide excitement to three different areas on your partner’s body, right? However, be careful when doing this–Joy, for one, can come quite easily when provided clitoral stimulation in this situation, so make sure the vibe between your partner’s legs doesn’t stay in place too long, or you may need to let her take a break to recover. I generally let the vibe between her legs work its magic only until she gets close to the edge of orgasm, then move it back to her nipple, saving her climax for later in the adventure.

Once the pleasure and excitement generated by Joy’s nipples has turned her from strong and professional woman to an overheated, sopping bundle of female desire, we usually move on to the main course, and end up with orgasms for everyone. However, I did want to point out one other option–one that works nicely if you’re feeling a bit strict or you believe a modicum of cruelty is in order. Twice over the past several years, after a dozen minutes of playing with Joy’s nipples, when she was fully aroused and panting to be taken, I have stopped and put down the vibrators. I have buckled her into the leather chastity belt we have–the one with the holders for two, internal dildos–and locked it in place, dildos fully inserted. And then I have put her to bed and turned out the light.

Why do this instead of mounting her and enjoying the pleasures of Joy? Why miss the opportunity to spread the legs of a beautiful and oh-so-willing woman?

Because sometimes the Dominant must remind the submissive exactly who owns who in the relationship. And once in awhile, demonstrating that message clearly can bring even more pleasure to both “D” and “s” over time than a single night of sex can deliver, no matter how glorious.

Enjoy yourself,


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