Last night we were out with a few vanilla friends, and somehow the conversation turned to sex (funny how it seems to do that after the third glass of wine). Anyway, it came to light that one of our friends has played around a bit with BDSM, and actually owns a pair of wrist cuffs and a whip. I couldn’t be sure whether she was the whipper or the whipee based on our brief conversation, though she seemed to imply that she was on the dishing-out end rather than the receiving end. But rather than delving into that aspect, the conversation instead focused on the cuffs.

Now these are work friends, and we’re not out to them, so both Joy and I played relatively dumb. Even so, I couldn’t help but suggest that she needed a pair of ankle cuffs to add to her collection. Her response surprised me. She said something like, “No, they wouldn’t do me any good. I can attach the wrist cuffs to the headboard of my bed, but I have nothing at the bottom of the bed to attach the ankle cuffs to.”

Now, I could have simply nodded sagely and kept mum, or I could have brought up the idea of a rope or chain to attach to the bedframe, or even one of those under-the-bed rigs they sell. Instead, though, I suggested what seemed to me like the most basic idea of all. “Couldn’t you just attach the wrist cuffs to the ankle cuffs? You know…left wrist to left ankle, and right wrist to right ankle?”

Everybody looked at me (except Joy, who studiously did not look at me) like I had just had an amazing idea, something they never had thought of. So, perhaps they hadn’t (though I have my doubts about that cuff-and-whip-owner)! Anyway, this experience has convinced me that I should do a write up of what I perceive as one of the two most basic bondage positions—wrists to ankles. Though it’s basic to me, it apparently wasn’t to my inexperienced friends, and therefore might be informational for folks who are new to TTWD.

As far as I know there is no proper name for this position. I have to call it something, however, so I’m going with “wrists to ankles”. If it turns out there is a proper name for it and someone out there wants to let me know, I’ll update this post to correct it.

Anyway, wrists to ankles is implemented by binding the submissive partner’s left wrist to the outside of their left ankle, and their right wrist to the outside of their right ankle. It may be done using cuffs and snap hooks, rope or some other sort of connector—your preference. The bound partner generally lies face up in this position, though it’s possible for them to roll over face down as well, and if they do so and arrange themselves properly, they can wind up in something similar or even identical to the leapfrog position I wrote about earlier. However, for today’s discussion, let’s stick to basics and assume the bound partner faces up.

Joy and I use this position frequently, and it has a number of excellent benefits:

  • It requires little equipment—just a set of four cuffs (one for each limb) and two snap hooks.
  • It’s quick to implement—if we start out with the cuffs already on, then it’s snap once, snap twice, and Joy is ready for action!
  • It’s comfortable for the bound partner—Joy can remain in wrists to ankles position for long periods of time if required.
  • It provides good access to all the important parts of the body—the wrists to ankles position pulls the hands and arms back out of the way, and leaves the bound partner’s face, mouth, breasts and nipples fully exposed and available for exploration. In addition, it naturally tends to pull their knees and thighs apart, leaving genitals unprotected. If the knees are lifted up and back, then the anal area likewise is uncovered.
  • It’s good for intercourse—either anal or vaginal intercourse is eminently doable.
  • It’s a good position for sharing—if you’re into that, this position allows for multiple Dominants to enjoy and give pleasure to the submissive partner at once, one at each end.

As always, however, there is a drawback as well:

  • It’s not particularly strict—because the bound partner can move around substantially and has some latitude to close legs and block access to their body, it doesn’t feel nearly as restrictive as some other positions, and it doesn’t provide the same feeling of Power/helplessness that more severe positions can offer.
    • Because of the lack of severity and all the various benefits listed, the wrists to ankles position works very well for beginners, and in fact would be my recommendation for the first bondage position to try once you’ve got a complete set of four cuffs. It’s also great for quick, impromptu adventures, when time is at a premium or you don’t want to deal with an elaborate setup, or when the bondage isn’t the main focus of the adventure. As an example of this latter situation, suppose that you’ve purchased one of the double penetration toys available for use, and want to give your female submissive partner a two-for-one treat. In this case, the bondage is kind of incidental—it adds to the atmosphere, but the real focus is on the double penetration. Wrists to ankles makes a great position for this.

      I don’t know if our vanilla friends will ever read this. I kind of doubt it, but you never know. So if you’re out there, my friends, and you have made it through this post, now you have some ideas for how you could use that set of ankle cuffs I recommended, even if you don’t have anything to attach them to at the bottom of the bed.

      Enjoy yourself,

      Jake

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