As I wrote a couple days ago, I’m more of a leather-cuffs-and-chains guy than a rope-bondage guy, and therefore my version of the ball tie position I’m about to discuss is simpler and more casual than the formal ball tie that the rope team sometimes goes for. As a matter of fact, the ball tie with cuffs is one of the easiest positions of all to implement! All you really need is a cuff on each of your partner’s wrists and a single snap hook and you are ready to go. You don’t even need ankle cuffs for this, and therefore it’s a good “next step” for beginners who only have wrist cuffs, but who have already experimented with the basic hands-behind-the-back and hands-bound-overhead positions. A word of warning, however–though simple, the ball tie greatly ramps up the helplessness of the bound partner, so be sure that you’re ready for this before you proceed.

Let’s begin with a quick description. A ball tie is created when you bind your partner into a ball, with knees pressed to chest. A strict ball tie would include ankles bound to thighs as well, and perhaps hands bound behind the back or bound to the ankles, but as I said, we’re going to be casual with our ball tie. To form a ball tie using wrist cuffs and a snap hook, all you need to do is press your partner’s thighs up to their chest, then lift their arms up over the backs of their legs. Bring their hands together so that they meet behind their knees and then use your snap hook to lock their wrist cuffs together. By doing so, you roll your partner into a ball and use their own arms as restraints, preventing them from being able to unroll. If done correctly, the submissive partner truly cannot free themselves.

So what are the pros and cons of this position? And when would you want to use it? Well, let’s start with the pros:

  • The submissive partner will quickly feel relatively helpless, mostly because they really are helpless. This can increase the excitement in an adventure because the bound partner discovers that they truly cannot prevent the Dominant from using their body as they see fit. (Remember to always respect the safe word, however!) If this is the submissive partner’s first time in this position, their helplessness may come as something of a surprise to them, but it will be discovered very rapidly after the snap hook clicks into place.
  • The bound partner’s genital and anal areas are highly exposed and very much available for stimulation of all types (including oral, manual and mechanical) as well as vaginal or anal intercourse.
  • The submissive’s rear end and genital areas are likewise highly available for spanking or flogging. This fact, together with the helplessness of the bound partner, makes the casual ball tie position a good candidate for disciplinary activities, if required.
  • The submissive’s mouth and head are also freely available for use. The entire gamut of oral activities remains available, from tender kisses to oral sex.
  • Because it is so simple, placing the submissive partner in a casual ball tie is quick and easy.
  • From a comfort perspective, the ball tie position scores relatively well. While long-term confinement will present problems, reasonable time periods (such as the duration of a scene) will be endurable without too much effort.

Now for the cons:

  • The bound partner must lay on their back or side. Face down positions aren’t realistic due to precariousness of balance and the discomfort perching face down causes.
  • The bound partner’s breasts and nipples are obstructed, and therefore not easily available for play.
  • Despite the real helplessness this position offers, the fact that the submissive partner is rolled into a closed ball can provide them with a perception of still having their defenses up. After all, one’s natural, last ditch defensive action is to roll into fetal position to protect oneself. The ball tie essentially forces the bound partner to remain in a defensive fetal position, and because of this, isn’t pound-for-pound as effective as a more open position at creating a feeling of vulnerability.
  • Joy and I have used the ball tie position several times for several purposes. Because it requires so little equipment, it’s proven useful when we take a trip together and want to pack light. It also has lent itself well to spanking followed by sex, with no need to change positions, loosen bonds, etc. in the middle of the process. And this position is also the one I used when I decided it was necessary to discipline Joy for the very first time, years ago. Remind me to write about that evening one of these days in my “BDSM errors” series of posts.

    So the bottom line on the ball tie position is this. It’s quick, requires little equipment, and is highly effective at making your submissive partner helpless. If the scenario you plan does not require access to your partner’s chest, and you don’t require the added feeling of vulnerability that a more open position provides, the casual ball tie can fill the bill quite nicely.

    Enjoy yourself!

    Jake

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