You know how some guys prefer to use a gas grill when they cook out, whereas others are charcoal purists, and wouldn’t dream of using anything else to barbecue? Well, that same sort of controversy exists within the bondage community. On the one side you’ve got the chains and cuffs crowd, who have no patience for the intricate knots and elaborate setups of the rope folk. And on the other you have the rope enthusiasts, who look down on the chain fans as being base and un-artistic.

As usual, the bulk of bondage practitioners fall into the middle, using a combination of chains and cuffs when they are most practical, and ropes and knots when they work best. I fall into this middle crowd, though my bias tends towards chains and cuffs (note the name of this blog). I thought I’d share some thoughts on the merits of each style of bondage, as well as some practical reasons for when to use one versus the other.

My lean towards cuffs and chains really stems from two main sources. First and foremost, they’re easier. Placing cuffs on Joy’s wrists and ankles is a matter of a couple minutes at most. Add in a snap hook (which is essentially a single link of chain designed to connect things) and a length of chain or two, and I can have her bound in any number of interesting and compromising positions in a very brief time indeed. Fast is good, as a lengthy binding process can drain energy from your BDSM adventure, requiring you to build it up again before you go on. So practically speaking, I like cuffs and chain because they’re quick and easy.

But there’s a second reason that carries nearly equal weight for me. I like the atmosphere they provide. Metal chain conjures a feeling of inescapability and brutality, a sense that Joy cannot break or sever her bonds to get away. It feels cold and unforgiving, and the rattle and clink it makes as it slides through an o-ring calls to mind dark cells in ancient prisons. Properly, metal cuffs would go best with this mood, but with cuffs, the practical aspect trumps the atmosphere. Metal cuffs can abrade the wearer’s wrists, and even when they do not do so, are not nearly as comfortable as their leather kin. More than that, leather carries its own cachet—the way it feels against bare skin and the scent it gives up as it warms through the wearer’s body heat both contribute to the feeling generated during a scene.

Rope purists point to a different set of benefits, however. They take great pride in developing complex bondage schemes that twist the bound submissive into a lovely, human pretzel. Rather than focusing on ease and practicality, they instead place their emphasis on the beauty of the setup, with the submissive bound tightly amid coils and strands of rope or framed nicely in a complex rope harness. Taking a long time to complete the bondage setup is expected, but that’s okay, as it’s the splendor of the submissive tightly bound in a myriad of perfect knots that catches their fancy. In fact, top-tier rope enthusiasts hold demonstration sessions in front of an admiring audience, showing off their skills as they slowly weave their web around their submissive partner.

Cuffs and snap hooks are not required—rope can encircle the wrists or other body parts quite handily on its own, and if the proper type is used, can prove reasonably comfortable. Because of this, the number of positions in which a submissive may be bound using rope is substantially higher than the number that can practically be achieved using cuffs and chain. In fact, because of its flexibility, rope may also be used to effectively bind less traditional body parts, such as a female partner’s breasts. Also, because the length of a strand of rope can be easily adjusted (whereas chain cannot), rope enables tight bondage even when required connector lengths are not known, or when tension needs to be increased.

Not being part of this community myself, I can’t say the following with a huge degree of confidence, but it appears to me from the outside that the rope aficionados gain much of their pleasure from the act of restraining their partner—in other words, the rope bondage is the end itself. I’d contrast this with the cuffs and chain community, for which I’d suggest that the bondage is a means to an end, and that end usually involves a paddle or a vibe and eventually hot socks.

Honestly, I think it’s neither possible nor desirable to state that either rope bondage or chains and cuffs is better than the other. Instead, it comes down to one’s taste. If the idea of beauties bound in elaborate positions calls to you, you might prefer rope. If the idea of confining your submissive partner so that you can take pleasure in their body appeals, you might like chains and cuffs. And it’s certainly conceivable that you might like both!

So, I said that I lean towards chains and cuffs, but sometimes use rope if it’s necessary. When would I choose to use rope?

Well, generally speaking, I always go with cuffs and I use chains whenever possible for the reasons I mentioned above. However, if I am binding Joy in a position where I don’t have a length of chain that works well, or where I don’t know what length will be required, I’ll use rope. If I need the flexibility to change the length of a connector during an adventure, I’ll use rope. If there will be contact and the possibility of abrasion between the connector and a tender portion of Joy’s body, or if I need the ability to tighten the connector as the scene progresses, or if I’m trying to attach to a place where a cuff won’t fit, or if I feel like breaking out our anal hook connector, I’ll go with rope. Basically, I use rope when I require flexibility and softness that chain simply isn’t made to deliver.

Oh, and for the record, when it comes to grilling out, I’m a charcoal guy. Go figure!

Enjoy yourself,


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